Its extra hard to stay sober tonight

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I don’t want to throw away the four years I stayed sober for, but tonight I’m so fucking exhausted.
I tried, I’m trying I find my sober self so unproductive and anxious and stuck, in contrary to who I used to be.

I’m in a different country, no one to call and my flat mate, has alcohol bottles filled to the brim in the living room, I’m home alone with them and I’m scared

This is a test but truly I’m not that strong. Especially that I’m at such a low point in my life I’m surprised I made it four years sober because my headspace is far from healthy, only thing stopping me is fear. And if I go back to drinking there’s no coming back for me, I would be a goner, blissfully self destructing till my demise

Update: I’m okay, sober found a meeting to attend tomorrow nearby, please if anyone feels this way breathe, self regulate and talk to someone don’t bottle it up, I get how exhausting it is and you are not alone in this

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Im sorry ur feeling so low right now :frowning: Drinking will only makes things alot work tho. Thats a promise. Idk whay time it is there, but is it possible to leave for awhile so that ur not around them? Go for a nice walk just to give u some time to get firm in ur sobriety again? Does ur flatmate know that ur in sobriety?

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I second that, can you leave to go clear your head for a bit?

Hang in there, don’t throw away all your hard work. You made it 4 years, so you are strong, that didn’t happen by accident. Speak more kindly and supportively to yourself.

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What are you doing now @Marss ? Can you get to an online meeting. Is a therapist accessable where youre at, i know just making an appt has brought me hope before.
Talk with us

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Thank you for the support <33 I looked for meetings around my area and found multiple, first thing in the morning I’ll attend one I’m feeling alot better rn, and I’m sober still xx

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Thank you for being there for me, if you feel that way as well don’t go through it alone yea? Talk to someone

I’m going to a meeting first thing tomorrow morning, I journaled and took a shower I feel alot better now, we can do this xx

I’ll try harder to be kinder to myself, do that too

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She doesn’t know I’m in recovery, she just knows I don’t drink but this flat is temporary and I’m moving out soon anyways, thank you for caring and being there

I did some journaling and took a shower, found a meeting nearby to attend tomorrow and I’m still sober, just for tonight then tomorrow I’ll promise myself just for today xx

And you’re right, I would just be adding fuel to a fire if I gave up

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So good to hear @Marss get that sober head to the pillow :slight_smile: :clap:

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Thank you also. :heart:

I’m glad you are feeling better now.

Honestly, it’s so important to speak kindly to yourself.

What happens a small child who is constantly put down, told they are no good, told they won’t succeed, no one likes them etc? They retreat into themselves, they loose confidence, they become a shell of the person they could have been if they had been encouraged and nurtured. It’s basically the same for us when we speak to ourselves that way too. Be your own best friend, not your own bully.

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Well done using the big toolbox to help with the situation :sunflower: I’m glad you enjoyed a shower, journaling helps me a lot too.
For the kindness approach, here come hugs to support you :people_hugging::people_hugging::people_hugging::people_hugging:

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