After 4 days I’ve failed. I need to have a better plan and try again.
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You got this
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I am sorry to hear this, but you’ve got this!
The way that I keep telling myself is “one more day” if I face it ALL day that way, then tomorrow I worry about when it comes. Just one more day today I will be sober, and then keep it going. After 9 relapses… I have found this to be the most effective, of course it isn’t easy, and will be challenging (it truly is) but if you face it with eyes wide open and an open heart, then you can conquer anything.
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It’s all good. You had a relapse, but you can always start again. You’re alive, you got this! We’re all in the same boat.
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Maybe a different mindset ,lots of programs and meetings available so you can meet like minded people face to face , ill be 38 years sober in sept no relapses or slips , they happen but as said back on the horse hold those reins abit harder this time desire and effort goes along way
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For sure, nothing changes if nothing changes. What was your plan so far? What can you do to change it?
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Truly don’t worry about tomorrow or the day after, focus on getting through the current day. I got this in audio so i can listen to it as I commute or when i feel an urge to drink. I think it’s very helpful in understanding the steps of A.A. and yourself. The reflection you need to do. You got this, stay mindful and present.
Little Red Book, Alcoholics Anonymous.
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Progress, not perfection.
Rather than beating yourself up for relapsing after 4 days, be proud that you’ve gone 4 days sober. Now build on it. Go 5 days sober, then 6, then a week…
Try to pinpoint your triggers, cut them down/out, and don’t beat yourself up when you get urges. You are going to get urges, you get to choose whether you act on them, breathe, choose not to act on the urge.
Baby steps, we’ll get there! 
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Thank you so much
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Nevermind @Pecador , get back on the train with us well done coming back and sharing that . Think you should share a bit more though!…what happened on day four ? What did you do or not do that made you pick up? And most importantly do you have a programme or meetings mate ???I really think you should at least look into it if you don’t
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Thanks. I need to have a better plan I guess.
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If it makes you feel any better, I have opted for Outpatient treatment for it (as inpatient isn’t an option with current situation) and I feel as though it has made me more accountable for everything. It started this past week and I feel so liberated with I guess… “responsibility” with accountability in knowing they will hold me accountable as well as everyone else.
It has almost lifted a weight off my shoulders. I don’t know how to describe it.