Woke up on the couch again like usual lately. I don’t sleep in my room. I have to have the TV on because I have a hard time sleeping when it’s quiet, my mind never shuts off. Woke up thinking about how I hate being alone all the time. I can’t get motivated until last minute and I really don’t feel good about myself. Just keep going through the “routine” of daily life just to keep my mind busy. Hopefully this will all get better, I just can’t seem to find the faith to believe it will. One day at a time right?
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I’ve started a routine to fall to sleep and not lay awake grinding on thoughts - same time as much as possible, lights down or kindle screen only, history or classic book reading, after reading do multiplication tables starting with 11 instead of counting sheep
For the day I plan at least one accomplishment and do it - walk, chore, hobby activity
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It sounds to me from what you are saying that you are basically just going with the flow through life hoping it gets better. Are you actively doing anything to improve it? Have you gone to meetings so you can make friends with other recovering people? That will ease your loneliness. You might be surprised what we do. Meetings, dances, camping, lunches and just spending quality time together. To motivate yourself make a list the night before of things you want to accomplish the next day and then hold yourself accountable for working on it. I fall asleep every night to the tv. There is nothing wrong with that nor with sleeping on your sofa if that is what helps you sleep. But ask yourself if that is a habit you want to continue or if you think you might want to change. Get something that interested you in the past. Reading? Cooking? Gardening? Something that you enjoyed and you would like to see if it could wake up your enjoyment of the day again. Journal your feelings. Doing that brings clarity into the cause of you feeling stagnant and could help bring you out of it. Keep coming here and expressing yourself. It helps more than you know. I’m glad you are here 
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Thank you, I do appreciate the advice. I have been going to meetings, try to make one every day actually. I have met a few people, got a sponsor and talk to some of the people in the program daily. Part of the problem is that after a 4 year relationship, we recently broke up. I haven’t really been super social outside the home for most of that 4 years, spending time with her and the kiddos for most of that time. I know that things will get better and one day I’ll feel comfortable with moving on. I have been using the journal on here, trying to track my moods/feelings. I’m really just trying to learn how to live now that I’m recently sober and recently single. Thank you again, I hope you have a great day.
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Those are 2 big changes. It will take time to heal from the relationship but as others have said make a list of things to do. Start your day with checking the simple ones of the list. Outdoor walks do wonders. Pop your headphones on some good music and take a stroll. Wish you start feeling better soon.
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Thank you, I do appreciate that. I actually took some of that advice today. Decided to go play guitar with one of the guys from a meeting. Neither one of us has done music for a while so it was pretty rough lol but, with a little time and practice, we might actually sound good lol I really do appreciate the feedback on here. It’s good to get ideas from outside of my own way of thinking. I hope everyone has a good night.
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One day at a time is right. Try some activities or develop a routine of self love and form good habits. Reach out more in this app for comments and support. Battle depression with positive affirmations, or maybe journaling. You can do it ! God bless.
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Hi, thank you for asking. I’m doing ok. Just trying to find things to do to keep my mind busy. Can’t seem to get out of this “funk.” I keep waking up angry and it tends to affect my whole day. I really wish I knew how to fix it, I suppose that’s just something that will come with time. I am a little worried because lately I’ve been thinking about drinking again. I know that’s not the answer and I really don’t want to destroy the progress I’ve been able to achieve so far. It is nice to have people reach out to me on here and to offer advice and support. Sorry, I don’t mean to burden you with my issues lol I do hope you are having a good day. Thank you again.
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Thank you! It’s nice to have the support from people in this group. I don’t want to complain on here too much lol but I have been using the journal in the app and keeping track of my moods and feelings. I will try some of your suggestions and see if they help. Thank you again, I hope you have a great day.
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