@Breetini1
How am I going to get through this??
With daily resolve not to drink or use.
My Dad died in a DUI. He’d been in a couple of them and went to AA, but it didn’t stick. Yes, one consolation was that he didn’t hurt anyone else. I hope you continue on your recovery journey. I used AA to get sober, that helped me.
You can do this!!!
@Phoebe I’m sorry about the loss of your Dad. It’s hard to believe that someone could have more than one DUI and it not be enough to get them to stop drinking. But I’m beginning to understand after hearing all the different stories in my home group, that nothing on earth can make the difference until the person drinking makes the decision.
Literally in the same position as you on the same day and have no traumatic injurys. I am trying to not drink until my court date as well as start AA and communith service now. Im planning to do something physically active each day as well as find a healthy outlet to keep me busy and expel energy. I hope your family is supporting you as much as they can. My partner is beyond frustrasted and seems to be on the verge of seperating so I hope your situation differs a little.
I am focusing on what i can control. Im taking things hour by hour and not dwelling in the lows because thats when bad choices are made. You are not garbage. You made a mistake and had bad judgement while impaired. We are not the person we are when drunk. We get to choose who we really are right now. Start steering the ship in the the direction you know you should be in. We got this.
Stay here. Stay sober. Meet those challenges straight forward and sober. It will feel like crap. But I’m sure, sober. Stay strong. I’m here
Been there. It’s the shittiest feeling, but you can use it to change. I was sober for a few weeks after my DUI, but didn’t fully commit to sobriety like I am now, and went right back to drinking (used some other shitty life circumstances as an excuse). Don’t do what I did. Like others have said, it takes commitment and work every day.
Obviously a DUI is serious, and while I’m not trying to ignore that fact…in my mandatory DUI classes, there were so many good people who just either made a big mistake and/or had this shitty addiction. NOT “bad” or “evil” people…kind and good people with families, good jobs etc…but people who were struggling. This made me feel less like a “failure” if that makes sense. No one is perfect. You can make a comeback from this.
I know this sucks right now, but you’ll make it through. Acknowledge your negative feelings, pick yourself up, and don’t give up. 
Take care of yourself.
Update: 
Didn’t realize this was from back in January! Lol oh well…maybe it’ll help someone 
HI , my name is Eamon apologies two yrs later and I was wondering how you are, I have only seen your contribution. I too had a DUI a yr ago, I live in Ireland and the penalty is a 2yr ban. But in Ireland it is socially frowned on, I suffer daily with depression self loathing and cannot seem to handle it too well, how have you been since, with everything. Cheers Eamon
Wow just seeing this post pop up reminds me of the feelings i had when i got my dui. Its not the end of the world…apparently it wasnt even rock bottom for me but ive come so far and will celebrate 3yrs sober may 1st
Hi everyone, 1yr and 5mths without alcohol, grateful for that, my sobriety followed a DUI case that took almost a year of court hearings every few months during this time I was severely depressed and at present am still having difficulties dealing with the decision I made to drink and drive. I have had to look at my life and drinking habits over the years and it does not for me paint a pretty picture , when I think about my wife who by the way stood by me and supports my daily battles with depression it makes me feel even worse that I have brought her into this whole mess. Our children who we did not tell both live far away from home in Canada and Ausrtalia, my daughter was on Bondi beach during that awful shooting last week, for me the way I feel so bad about myself and things this really did not register in my mind, how sad is that. I will never drink again and I wonder sometimes if I had not been caught would I still be drinking. I am still sadly really badly depressed about this whole affair and cannot seem to move on with my life, I lost work I used to do and with that an identity I had and a reason to get up everyday. apologies for this, but I needed to write this out and feel that in some wat some of you might understand and if possible reply with some kind words. Thank you all
Hi Eamon,
Thank you for sharing so honestly. Your sobriety is a huge achievement, especially given how much you’ve been carrying. What you’re feeling makes sense, and it doesn’t erase the courage it’s taken to stay alcohol-free and face the consequences. You’re not defined by one decision, and the fact that you care so deeply about your wife, children, and your life shows the person you truly are. You’re not alone in this, and many here understand. Please be gentle with yourself and keep reaching out.
I got a DWI 6 years ago and felt all the things your feeling. It will be okay, the important thing is you’re alive and no one else was hurt. The biggest thing is to just make sure it doesn’t happen again (I don’t mean this in a judgy way at all, but when I got mine this is what my boyfriend told me at the time and it really helped me move forward). Here if you need someone to talk too! 
I’m on my day one sober today so I’m sure I’ll be on here a lot. Really putting my all into quitting this time.