I’m new to this and certainly not too wise…
But I think if I were in your shoes maybe try getting a bit dressed up and going to meeting. I’m not sure but it sounds like you’re isolating and in a depression funk. Sometimes being around people can perk you back up. Maybe even a phone call with an uplifting person. I definitely think you need someone to talk to, maybe even reaching out to a therapist.
Also you can try the list method for motivation. Crossing things off can make you feel more accomplished. Sometimes mine are incredibly simple, but definitely needed
Get out of bed
Make bed
Brush teeth
Shower
Make breakfast
Water plants
Creating a new routine is important in early sobriety. Good advice my friend
Maybe service work might help . helping other people who have a problem . apart from meetings maybe join a Gym if you can afford it or even a walking club . plenty of hobbies out there to get you motivated wish you well
Congratulatuons on 111 days sober!!! Sounds like ur in a bit of a slump right now and like ur really missing some joy in ur recovery. I remember feeling very similar at different points in my recovery. What helped is doing the opposite of what i want to do. Basically doing the next right action. If i wanted to sleep the day away, id get up and head to a meeting instead. If i didnt want to talk to my sponsor, i called her instead. If i didnt feel like praying or reading my Bible, id open the book up instead and read even a little bit and do a prayer. Getting back to the basics of recovery has helped me many times when I get in a slump. Sometimes we just have to do the opposite.
Our addictions are waiting for us to get complacent. Its important that we do the daily work to keep our addictions at bay. @Ray_M_C_Laren made a great suggestion also about helping others and being of service. Doing this gets us out of ourselves and takes the focus away from our despair and problems. Maybe asking what u can do at meetings to be of service would be beneficial. Even if its making coffee or chairing a meeting. Getting out of ourselves is crucial when we get in a slump. Wishing u well
You could ask a power greater than yourself to heal this depression and to provide you with motivation. Then go for a walk and see what happens. I would just start moving either way and get un-stuck. Stretch, get some fresh air, eat some carbs do something to give you energy. Drink some caffeine, take action. Sometimes that’s all it takes and I start feeling better let me know if the praying helps?
Welcome to the next stage in sobriety. The pink cloud evaporated and now your left feeling raw. This is when the hard work begins. Times like these, I like to reflect on why I am taking this journey. Reflect on where I was, where I was heading and where I am now, and most importantly, where I am heading. It’s times like these where one day at a time rings more true than ever before.
Dig deep and stay sober today.
Hey Angelica,
I think your answer is in your first sentence. Meetings. Or lack of. Whenever I’m feeling low down lack of motivation it might not be because I haven’t been to a meeting. But it almost always coincides with my lack of meetings. I heard the shelf life of a meeting in early recovery is only 24 hours.
Congratulations on the 111 days. Thats something to be proud of.