Learning to deal with wreckage of our using

Life in Recovery
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I have been sober for 56 days today,I am still dealing with the courts and I got really irritated at the way they treated me in drug court ,I felt as though the public pretender was just that,no representation at all one thing I have to realize though is to be grateful for my higher power putting a stop to my addiction,and made me realize that life is worth living,so I have to learn to deal with these struggles and know it’s the start of a new day

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Dealing with the courts is so draining. Makes you feel powerless so I understand why you feel this way. I’m glad you decided to look at the bright side and realize your higher power causes you to make a good decision and start a new chapter. hugs

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I was 2 years sober when I cleared my final warrant. I caught some charges in active addiction and of course never showed up to court. Forgot all about it until a background check at work came back with all sorts of goodies. Luckily at that point in my sobriety I had been through the steps so I was ready to make amends. I went into court surrender and take my sentence. Whatever it might be. I went in front of the judge and apologized for not appearing. I also told them that I was currently 2 years sober and rebuilding my life. And although I had ducked that court for years the judge opted to dismiss all the charges and send me on my way.

I believe that my honesty with the judge and fact that I was willing to take my punishment without excuse helped me out. Sometimes the wreckage of our past takes years to clean up. It might be frustrating and hard but it’s always worth it.

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I had a dui charge that actually gave me the push I needed to take sobriety serious. When I went to court, my attorney was useless and a waste of money, so I had to take control. By this time, I was 90 days sober and going to IOP and AA on my own volition. The judge heard me out, was impressed with my recovery actions and gave me the minimum possible by state law. That’s what’s great about having a clear mind when it comes time to face the music. We can’t change the past but we can certainly show how we’re improving, and then leave the outcome in the hands of our higher power.

Wishing you the best on your journey!

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WOW !! So happy to hear everything was dismissed !!! You deserve to be understood and given a chance. It was not just luck that you stood in front of that certain judge. I’m happy for you , keep going.

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Sucks how we find out our hired help is actually just a waste of money

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In my limited experience, 2 cases, that’s par for the course. They aren’t there to get you out of trouble or to negotiate the best deal, they are there to process paper work and make sure you get through the while process as quickly and swiftly as possible. You’re just a case number.

Sometimes ya gotta take your lumps. Put in the work, turn your life around and show them that you aren’t like everyone else, then hope for the best. That’s all you can do.

Sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesn’t, either way, you will come out a better person, and that’s all that matters.

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I found that not blaming others and taking responsibility for my own actions, or lack there of served me best.

That said…it took me quite awhile and Im not there fully, but you get the point.

Be well

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Thank you for saying that I was just letting it out, good place for it but since I turned my will and life over to him,the difference is so much more peaceful.