I’m struggling right now. My husband won’t quit drinking with me and keeps buying liquor. I’m 3 days and today I drank about 3.5 oz which is less than half of my usual intake.
What do I do? Reset my clock? I’m trying so hard but am isolated here. I live out in the boonies and am up in age. I know my body has been speaking to me about quitting!
I would reset. It was a decision to drink. If you do that here and there then your time gets blurry, 
Hey SJF.
Welcome to TS.
My wife drinks and I’m sober. She’s been drinking the whole time I’m sober. Almost 3 years now. I’d reset if it were me.
I been attending AlAnon meetings and I’m very active on this forum. It all helps to keep me sober and sane while my wife continues to drink.
My husband drank for the first 2 years of my sobriety so I know how difficult it is to stay sober. What helped me was going to AA meetings and being a good example. Also, that alcohol he brought home was not mine to touch.
As far as resetting, I would reset if I intentionally took even one sip of alcohol but then again my intention is to remain completely sober. If I were to allow one little slip, that would open the door for another, leading right back down the rabbit hole.
You can always connect to sober people via zoom. That’s what I’d recommend. Focus on your sobriety.
That is hard. I’m glad you are reducing, that may be a step to quitting. Several members have a partner who drinks, it is hard, but not impossible, to focus on one’s own sobriety. Getting online support might help.
Well clock has been reset. Trying hard. Days are fine, it’s the evening that I struggle the most. I’ll keep trying.
I found that having a plan for the evenings helped in the beginning. Even if the plan was to take a cup of tea and a book to bed right after dinner and sleep early. Or go out for a walk. Something to keep me busy and away from the reflex I had to reach for a glass of wine (or ten).
Also, using HALT to think of why I wanted a drink helped. Am I hungry, angry, lonely or tired? Because then the response is to eat something nutritious/yummy, let out the angry energy in a healthy way (exercise helps me), call family or friends (or find activities to change my routine and have me around people more) or just go to bed…
I realize now that feeling lonely made things escalate for me quite often. Reading and writing here helps a lot. But I also had to make life changes to make sure I was not alone so often, and was doing something meaningful to others.
Keep at it. I’m not young anymore and a big reason why I stopped was because my body was telling me in no uncertain terms that I simply had to stop drinking. Or it would stop me.
Right, me too! Keep me in your prayers! I will keep quitting until it sticks for good!