I have struggled with alcohol since I started drinking at age 17. It was rare for me to be able to drink just a few. I was the person who was wasted and making a fool of myself and embarrassing others around me. My drinking only got worse when I met my now husband, who is also an alcoholic. We have been together for 6 years almost and in those 6 years I have slowed down and stopped drinking different times, but have always returned. I’m 36 days sober and I think we have argued 30 of those days. He finally admitted that he’s jealous that I can stop and he can’t. Lately I’ve been having thoughts that this isn’t going to work because I want to and need to stay sober… he’s not ready and doesn’t want to be ready… just needing to vent because it sucks.
Congratulations on your 36 days…good work!! Another new member was venting / asking about similar experiences, so I wanted to share the thread for you…
He does want to stop or he wouldn’t be jealous of your attempts but you admit yourself you always go back to drinking. Why not work this thing together and both go to a meeting.
I was ready to quit for years but my addiction had other ideas for me until I found out what my real problem was and a better way to approach life. Don’t push your recovery onto your partner though bc us active alcoholics will fight you all the way to our graves. Try leading by example and be patient and see if he follows.
My partner is now over a year sober just bc I gave up and it was boring doing it on her own, I never once suggested to her or resented her, my choice was my choice and her choice was her choice.
We take our sobriety seriously and show others a better way.
Congrats on your sober days BTW 
Thank you, and i agree; I think if I can figure out how to not show him my frustrations it will get better. But our time together was drinking outside… now it’s like we don’t spend time together, that’s hard for me but I guess it’s something I have to get used to…
Trust me your going to get to a point in your sobriety where the whole world won’t be good enough for you, you’ll want a new job new partner new hobbies and experiences but the only thing that you have to concentrate on is you. Everything else is going to happen just as it should, there may be changes or there may not be but do one day at a time and see where you end up and who with.
I had nothing left in common with my partner once the drink and drugs were gone but nearly 2 years down the road we’ve got new things we actually do together. The only thing we used to do together was I used to let her watch me drink all day 
36 “Day-ones” are impressive ones!!!
People, Places @ Things will either feed your sobriety or starve it out; You are in control of what happens next!!!
Nice to make acquaintance