Time to get out there and meet some people. Look into group activities that don’t involve drinking. Maybe take a college course to learn a new language, or ballroom dancing, or my personal favorite, martial arts. Become a crossfitter or gymn rat. Doesn’t matter, as long as you enjoy and look forward to it. You’ll meet new people who share your interest, and will only know you as a non-drinker. As you grow stronger in mind, body and spirit, you might join these friends outside of the classroom, gym or dojo for other pursuits. It was this way for me and Krav Maga. I met a whole bunch of people, and I’ve become friends with many. We meet for dinners and holdiday events, “Fight Nights” where we eat and watch combat sports. I’m not the only non-drinker in the group either.
The point is there’s a big beautiful world out there, full of genuinely interesting people, and only one thing’s missing…you!
Yea I can relate. I guess I always felt like I always had something to do that was satisfying with or without friends. Everyone close to me drinks pretty regularly and because we don’t do those things together anymore we’re not as close. I always used drugs and alcohol to hide but I never realized that’s what I was doing. I would often say and do things I wish I never would while drunk. Now I know that I actually just like to remember and be mindful with what I share to respect my privacy. Something I had to learned about myself while sober.
I can totally relate to the loneliness. Also had my beers as my best friends. When i stopped i just had to face it, the loneliness was already there before the alcohol, the alcohol helped me to feel less lonely temporarily but in the end did a poor job. I had to realize nothing has ever solved my loneliness, not alcohol, not relationship, not friends, travel, work. In my life i’ve experienced and keep on experiencing all of that and more but this empty feeling of loneliness persists. So the only way is to look inside, where does it come from. For this i do therapy. There i slowly learn ways how to approach and deal with it. It’s very hard but also eye opening.
Anyway, just sharing my experience about this topic. Hope it has something useful in it for you.
I have this exact same feelings/problem and for me i have started face to face meetings, as i get to build a support system for myself that i dont have yet apart from here, but also human interaction, i need it so much the loneliness is overwhelming. And i know my sobriety is safe if i make friends at meetings.
Maybe ghis is something you could do ? If you already dont.
Sorry you feel like this, i totally get it ita horrible i spend all my time with myself. My family sre not supportive or close and i feel so alone it does feel so horrible.
But the meetings are helping me very much, i hope you find what helps you too.
