Hey everyone,
I am new here and hope you guys can support me getting, if not fully then a little rid of my addictions.
I am addicted to-
Smoking- almost 2 packs a day.
Drinking- everyday.
Masturbating- 2-3 times a day.
Social media- drunk texting, and all that stuff I want to stay away from people. I usually bring problems in other people’s life.
Installed this app to get some support leaving my bad habits. I am trying to quit- smoking, drinking, masturbating and social media. Hope I find peace in life
Welcome @Yolobitch you will definitely find support here, there are people with addiction experience in all of those issues, the more I read here the more I learn, the more I learn the more successful my sobriety is and the higher the chances of success
Sounds like you’ve got a lot of changes you want to make there. I often go on big blitzes of trying to change lots of behaviours, I tend to find they don’t all stick. In some things I find my baseline of ‘normal’ gets a bit healthier. But it can easily go the other way and I end up getting a case of the fuckits, and give up. That is just me though. What do you think would work best for you, trying to do everything all at once or trying to focus on one thing at a time?
I second @siand. It is a bit easier for me to approach my addictions one piece at a time. For me, porn was my biggest problem and therefore needed the most attention. I also smoked pot to deal with the anxiety I created through my addictive/codependent behaviors.
Which of these issues contributes the most chaos to your life?
I third @siand! I take on too much at once and end up failing miserably. Perhaps taking on one and building your sober muscles and some confidence to tackle the next?
Welcome brw, this place is amazing you will find it really helpful you stick around and read read read.
Hey sian I get what you are trying to say. But it’s more like I am not going to stop everything immediately.
Like for example alcohol was a direct stop. At that point inwas like ok this shot has ruined me a lot. Now he has to leave.
Then coming to smoking. I can quit directly, honestly inwill go crazy. So what I do is I start heavy workout. That makes difficult to breathe, but that also stops me from smoking because I feel like inwill vomit everytime I smoke so it gets down from 20 to like 3-4 in a couple of months, I have tried this almost 4 years ago. Was sober for like a year. Then became lazy and started again
Hey Mtrav004 coming to masturbation, I am addicted to it since I was 12? Or earlier idk it was always there. It’s like I won’t be able to sleep if I don’t do it for 2 days stright so here again the heavy work comes handy(no pun intended) . Currently I am cycling like 15kms a day on uneven surface. So when I lie on the bed I just fall asleep. Although I admit it dosent work all the time but. Almost 70% time. So I think in the beginning it should work. Then I would learn from you people
Frantasticoo I think I am trying to correlate all the things so that I would be easier for me. And looking forward to it.
By the way I don’t know why I deleted all my social media. I highly regret it. I think it’s just because of the one girl. The only girl that I loved.
Also it turns out I can’t put in links so I deleted a letters of your usernames. Hope you guys don’t mind
Glad your looking forward and being positive I quit booze then one month later cigarettes and have found fighting both cravings can be done with the same tools, do they are transferable skills. Keen keeping on, look forward to hearing about your progress
Exercise is very important for my recovery too. I need it or I’ll be too wired and on edge.
I’m looking forward to learning more of your story. It may be wise to consider therapy or 12-step meetings to begin processing all of this and the reasons why you acted out with substances and masturbation. It’s a tough journey, but it’s worth it to live with clarity.
Actually yeah I think I am not very good with my words.
So, the question you asked me was what if I have to choose only one and I gave a very deep thought.
Alcohol- I am sober from last 1.5 months and I don’t crave for it. So I think it will be easy to give up.
Social media- yeah I am facing some issue at work and home because instant messaging gives you some benifits of contacting easily.
Cigarette- what can I say, honestly it’s very difficult for me to quit it. I may show that yeah I can do it it’s too easy. But inside it’s like come on just one, no one will know.
Masturbation- this one. I can’t leave this one. It’s like too difficult for me. So if I can quit it. It will be this.
Hey @siand thanks will sure do. You can keep a check on me.
Hey @Robin thanks man you are very active. I have some suggestions for you to add. Will send you a message.
@Mtrav0040 sure man. But I guess the road to quitting is not as easy as starting it.
@Frantasticooo actually my therapist said to quit it slowly like from all days a week to 4. And I was like fuck this. I am gonna quit it today and I did it. But quitting smoking is difficult. I think of the reasons might be the free time. It’s like I am going to sleep let’s smoke first, inam free let’s smoke, I am going to washroom let’s smoke, I am smoking let’s smoke.
