Making amends to ex wives

Today I spoke to three different people specifically about making amends with them. Thing is I don’t remember everything I’ve done so a lot of the conversation goes like hey look I’m trying to make amends if there’s anything that I’ve ever done I want to apologize and see if there’s any way I can make up for it. Which was awkward for me to talk with my Ex-Wives husband. That she was dating during our marriage. But that’s the in the past in the past stays in the past. Now he is my children’s stepfather that’s why I made the amends. I also added my ex-wife and soon to be to those lists. Overall the conversations went surprisingly well. What I’d like to say is that it was a super happy moment and lots of joyous celebration. However it was more like an awkward conversation that you know you needed to have. Which is fine because what I do feel is relief less stress. And an overall calmness. I am making changes to life. There is still time left. And I still have the ability to mend relationships.

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It’s all about healing and the amends help us so much. Glad you’re here and feeling better. Keep stepping forward friend.

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Well done :purple_heart:. Glad it is healing for you.

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Making amends does feel awkward in so many ways, but it’s part of the healing process. You accepted your wrongdoing in the relationship, now you can move forward the thing about making amends is it’s not so much for you as it is for them,

We learn how resentments are like drinking poison and expecting the other to die, well as our knowledge grows making amends relieves us of the fact that we admitted our wrong doings, ask for forgiveness and let it be. Well they may be holding a grudge and don’t understand yet coming forward and admitting your faults makes them have less resentments, well any normal human being.

You’ll feel better soon, it feels weird now but like you said one was child’s mother, making amends now could create a better coparenting relationship down the road

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