I cant stand when girls use tight leggings, as it turns me on and starts making me horny. I also hate the girls who have a lot of exposed breast as it has the same effect. It school, a lot of girls dress like this. Also in video games and movies the characters dress like this. It makes it so hard to resist.
Do any of you have this problem, or do you have different triggers? And the girls out there, what are triggers for you?
The world isn’t going to change to suit your addiction. Just because a woman is wearing clothing you find attractive, it’s not an excuse to act out.
It takes practice but you need to train your mind to avoid leering. People see that, and it creeps them out to see you staring. Try to focus on their face and their eyes. Look at their character rather than their body parts. People might be drop dead gorgeous but terrible human beings.
Also, if you ever want to be with someone you find attractive, do you think that going home to watch porn is going to get you one step closer to a relationship?
I used to blame the world for all the eye candy that it put in my path. Truth is, it’s not the world’s problem, it’s my problem. It’s my responsibility to deal with that problem.
If you fall for someone because they have body parts you appreciate, chances are there won’t be an emotional connection that will sustain the relationship through the tough times. On top of that, if you allow people to have power over you because they’re leading you around on a string, they’ll manipulate the relationship to their advantage.
I understand what you are feeling, as I often have the same problem with these situations. Focusing on the addiction only feeds it, from what I have experienced in my life, so it is important to see them for who they are instead of what they are if that makes any sense. I, personally, wish the world was a bit cleaner and that people would dress a bit nicer, but I have to remind myself that I have a different set of values and what it going on around us doesn’t bother them like it does to me. When I remember this, I remember that only I can change my life to fit in the world without being a part of it. It’s tough, don’t get me wrong, but it’s what I have learned over the last few months. So hang in there, and don’t listen to the triggers!
Here is a quote that has helped me a bit:
“We but mirror the world. All the tendencies present in the outer world are to be found in the world of our body. If we could change ourselves, the tendencies in the world would also change. As a man changes his own nature, so does the attitude of the world change towards him. This is the divine mystery supreme. A wonderful thing it is and the source of our happiness. We need not wait to see what others do.”
– Mahatma Gandhi
Paraphrasing doesn’t really do justice, but some people have often said it this way: Be the change you want to see in the world. 
What @Mtrav0040 said. I used to dwell on those feelings you’re talking about. I was a very angry person, full of resentment toward the women I was lusting after. But in recovery I’ve realized I can’t control how other people dress. I can only control my attitude toward them, and most of those people aren’t worth my time to think about.
Its easer said than done, they dress like that to look sexy, but then they dont like it when people stare at them. I dont understand these people. Its hard not to be bothered by them. There not going to change, but i wish they did.
I wish they would as well, hopfully as urges to masturbate go away my lust for them will go down as well.
It’s within a persons right to feel confident and dress to reflect that. Yes, maybe it would draw attention, but it does not invite you to engage in sexual fantasy with their image. If you felt confident in your body and society allowed you to dress in whatever fashion conveyed that confidence, wouldn’t you do so?
Dressing sexy does not express consent in any way.
There are a lot of people out there who have problems with porn that classify themselves as lust addicts for this very reason. Their problems with lust don’t stop when the screen is off.
No one can behave or dress in any way that dictates our response. The way we react to any situation is always within our control. No one “makes you horny.” You allow your lust to run unchecked. That is the heart of the matter.
Maybe they dress like that bc they like way they look. Maybe it’s a self esteem boost. But it’s definitely not your business why anyone dresses. Keep focusing on them and you won’t focus on you. Saying they deserve to be stared at is victim blaming. I get it you are struggling with an addiction and it’s tough, but it’s not something we can blame on others.
They do have a right to dress that way, but as a male its in my right to find them atractive. A overwight woman with body hair and a rash does not turn me on, but a thin women with a large bottom and breast does. Its a natura prosses, and there image causes me to be extreamy acticted to them.
Just as its in there right to dress that way, its in my right to voice my oppinion about my dislike. Just as prople would not find it appropriate if i had leggings on that reveald my privat parts. They would be unattracted and voice it.
I dont want to have a government program to arrest them. And i dont want people to rape them. I just want to voice how i think they sould not dress so reveling as to cause guys get erect or bother them.
Like I said, if you catch yourself lusting after someone; Recognize it’s not benefiting your sobriety and stop the behavior. Rather than saying that society needs to change and the women of the world need to dress differently, look inwardly at your own behaviors. What’s the change that you can control? Which change is more feasible?
I’m as guilty as you of lusting after women. But I work to manage it daily. Whether it’s ads on the internet or seeing women at the gym. You’re not unnatural for feeling those feelings. But allowing those feelings to have control over your behavior is a choice you are making.
A trick that I use is “the buzzer.” If I catch myself leering I imagine the big red X from family feud and the buzzer sound in my head. Nope, Shouldn’t be looking at her like that. She’s a woman, a human being, a wife, a mother, a daughter. She has a life and dreams and goals and faults and imperfections. I really know nothing about her. She is not defined by how she dresses. It is a tiny percentage of who she is. If you disagreee with her clothing, tough. That is your problem.
Many women dress for comfort as well. Leggings are comfortable to wear.
Yeah, you may be attracted to them, but there is a way to view a person and appreciate them without letting your thoughts turn to sex. I know this because im also a lust and porn addict. If I can control my thoughts and physical responses then anyone can.
Also, totally agreed. You cannot change the world. But, you can be in the world but not of the world. All you can change is yourself. The addiction is my problem, not the lady’s on the squat rack.
Edit: also, @Last-hope Jaden youre only 16. Some of us have been struggling with this addiction for longer than youve been alive. Id suggest you heed some of the advice you’re receiving and try to apply it to your own situation.
At the same time, the way they dress is normal and accepted in our society. Dressing like a clown is not. Therefor, sexualizing them by staring may be seen as a form of harassment.
Its hard, but your right. I got to be realistic, i cant chang how millions of people dress, but i can chang how i think about them. It is still aggravating non-the-less.
Speaking from experience? 
To be fair, they do look comfortable.
Lol. I have worn them before and they support all the right places!
i also wear tights undernearth my running shorts as a base layer on early morning runs.
This was along the lines of what I was going to say. The problem isn’t with how they dress. It is with your mind. By watching porn, movies, and society, in general, oversexualize women. You begin to objective them. The more porn you watch the less human they become. You have to try and stop objectifying women. It’s hard to do, we are guys like you said. Some things are just programmed in our DNA. But stopping that 2nd glance, not looking at porn, skipping the sex scene. It helps with lust, and a bonus when you get home you don’t have all these stored up images in your brain. So it helps you stop looking at porn/masturbating.
This is easier said than done. I am still working on it.
I am a runner. If guys wearing tights was socially acceptable I would wear them all the time. I also wear short shorts. You know the 2-inch inseams with the full split. So take my opinion with a grain of salt, but yes women are living the good life with tights.