I’m sorry I know that must be so hard. She obviously has somethings going on and is projecting it on to you. Hang in there and stand your ground. You deserve respect and have a lot to be proud of. You deserve only the best.
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Thank you. I feel like I need to get away from her and leave her but I can’t tell if it’s just my trauma bullshit or if she really is being an asshole. I hate this.
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Trust your gut if you are thinking it’s not healthy for you to be in a relationship with her it’s probably not. Remember your priority right now is you. Do the best for you. Praying for some peace for you. 
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Thank you for being here and for the prayers I really need them. Goodnight my friend thank you again.
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Goodnight Rob always here for you my friend sleep well.
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Sorry for the emotional throw up earlier. I found this online and I think that’s what I do and I thought it might be good to share so here it is:
Below, you’ll find a three-step process to help you clarify whether you’re projecting or not. You can apply this inquiry process to any challenging situation that comes up for you.
STEP 1: Notice if you’re exhibiting these symptoms of projection:
Feeling overly hurt, defensive, or sensitive about something someone has said or done.
Allowing someone to push your buttons and get under your skin in a way that others do not.
Feeling highly reactive and quick to blame.
Difficulty being objective, getting perspective and standing in the other person’s shoes.
Noticing that your reactivity is a recurring pattern.
You’re the only person to notice or experience these issues with this person.
STEP 2: Become honest with yourself.
To get the most out of this process, ask yourself all of these questions and write down the answers:
What part of my past is this person triggering?
Where does this send me on an emotional level?
What types of stories am I telling myself about this person/situation?
Do I feel reactive about this? If so, in what way? What do I want to do?
Who or what does this person or situation remind me of?
In what ways do I act like this person? Is there any area in my life where I also show up in this way?
In what ways do I not act like this person? Why is that?
Am I afraid that I might be like this person, or that others might think of me in this way? If yes, what’s at the core of this fear?
What do I need to do to take care of myself right now? How can I self-soothe?
How can I be compassionate while also setting a healthy boundary with this person/situation?
STEP 3: Reclaim your power and radiate compassion.
Whether you’ve discovered that you are or aren’t projecting, you can regroup and release yourself from being in victim/perpetrator mode. This final step will help you to shift into a state of clarity and empowerment while creating space for compassion.
Take 10 slow, deep breaths with your eyes closed. As you breathe, imagine anything you’re projecting onto others is coming back to you. Imagine that your projections are illuminated with your awareness. Take 10 deep breaths as you imagine compassion circulating through your body. As the projections come back to you, imagine that you’re welcoming them into a world of compassion. Visualize the compassion expanding with each breath until you’re so filled with compassion that you radiate this energy all around you.
When you embody compassion and reclaim or release projections, it’s like you’re clearing obstacles that blocked you from having an authentic relationship with other people. If you find out that you aren’t projecting, it still helps to go through this 3-step process to gain perspective and generate compassion for yourself and others.
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Thanks for sharing this. Needed it at this time.
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That sounds awful. I am sorry for you. Maybe it would indeed to go out somewhere and scream the pain out.
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I am saving this one!
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I want a print! It’s so pretty.
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Needed that right now thank you
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