My inner critic isn’t convinced. I don’t like this inner voice. It’s strong.
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Hey, what do you mean if you dont mind elaborating?
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When I read it there is this inner voice immediately jumping onto the scenes and telling me that this is all just excuses. That it’s all up to me. I cannot really describe, just what this voice is whispering. Well, it’s more yelling
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I see, very clear. Its sounds like a voice you internalized (so once outside, now becomes inside) that its your fault and cant name what you feel is causing you pain 
You’re not alone, and I appreciate you explaining.
There are different reasons we can have mental health issues, and scientifically, our environment is a reason.
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Copypasted this from an FB page (https://www.facebook.com/insightfamilytherapy). By and large I feel this is how successfully healing from C-PTSD through therapy could go. To give people an idea (maybe helpful to you Len @Lensmosis12 ) .
Healing C-PTSD does not mean reliving every memory. It means restoring the capacity for safety, connection, and regulation.
Decades of trauma research (Judith Herman, 1992 / 2015; van der Kolk, 2014; Porges, 2011; Levine, 1997; Ogden & Fisher, 2015) show that recovery unfolds in three overlapping stages—each supported by evidence-based and body-based modalities:
1. Stabilization and Safety
The first stage focuses on regulating the nervous system and establishing a sense of safety—both internally and externally.
Modalities that support this phase include Somatic Experiencing, trauma-informed yoga, DBT, mindfulness, breathwork, and grounding practices.
The goal is to help the body learn that the present is safer than the past.
2. Processing and Integration
Once stabilization is reliable, the work turns toward integrating traumatic memories without overwhelm.
Approaches such as EMDR, Internal Family Systems (IFS), Somatic Experiencing, Psychodrama, trauma-focused CBT, and body-oriented processing help transform traumatic memories into coherent and tolerable experiences.
The goal is to make sense of what happened while staying connected to the present moment.
3. Reconnection and Growth
The final stage involves rebuilding relationships, purpose, and identity beyond trauma.
Modalities that support this phase include relational therapy, group work, yoga therapy, psychodrama, creative expression, and community engagement—each fostering trust, compassion, and embodiment.
The goal is to move toward connection and meaning, not simply symptom reduction.
Healing from complex trauma is not linear. It is cyclical, relational, and deeply somatic.
If therapy has not seemed to “work,” you may simply be in a different phase of healing.
Your nervous system heals in sequence, not on command.
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I love it but don’t want to. 
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Super helpful information. Thank you for posting. 
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As much as I feel like I’m doing…. Ok…
I feel like my job is opening old wounds. The yellow highlight is the part of my life that I was in when I lived in the area I’m currently working in. And staying grounded and self harm free is…. Getting really hard.
Trigger warning: a lot.
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I hope being here and sharing some of the hurt helps a little dear friend. You’re safe here.
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Not just fear of abandonment by the way. Fear of being hurt again in all the ways we were hurt before. And often rightly so. The predators know how to pick out their prey. But we learn how to recognize the ones that want to prey on us. And we can learn to trust some folks, the one in a thousand that we can trust and truly connect with. I can’t do it alone no more. The opposite of addiction is connection.
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Sending love and good vibes 
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What a wonderful statement and truth.
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So real.
Oh just f’n do it, proceedeth 
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It’s hard and concerning to hear you say that staying self harm free and grounded is getting really hard … because of the triggers where you’re working.
Please think about if and how you can escape … if you feel you really need to/should …. yes changing jobs, and I know it was so hard for you to find this one to begin with, how hard it is to find jobs out there.
I’m glad that you’re writing about it here. Getting support.
The piece that you wrote is publishable and it’s your life that you’re talking about.
Big hugs and lots of caring and love.
@Scorpn
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Dear @Mno thank you so much for your extremely helpful posting regarding the paths to healing. In reading it, I realize that it is far more complex than I ever thought. It’s also challenging but important work. For me, getting and staying sober is a big and essential first step (along with the CBT Therapy, Psychiatrist, and Spravato Treatments, which I am also doing.
In time I am hoping all this helps recover from an extremely damaging beginning to my life. Len
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That’s a good one.
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