I love this. 
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Thank you, this is gold and a gem as reminder 
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That is Beautiful. Thank you for sharing!
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Thanks Daniela. It’s about me and many many people I met. Here, in my work, in my private life. Addicts, trauma survivors.
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Thank you @Mno this is so true and I’m sure I’m not alone in needing to hear this on repeat. Bookmark reminder set
Hugs to you dear friend 
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A Great Thanksgiving recipe reminder! Thank you Alisa.
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Love this!! Thanks for sharing it!!
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You’re welcome, love it too, a strong quote 
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This guy is one of the reasons I’m still on FB. He expresses so much that I feel too. Love him. This one is a bit long, and totally not meant to discredit gratitude as a tool in Recovery. Or the people practising it. It does explain perfectly why I have some trouble with it at times. Post is from yesterday BTW
Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle
You’re going to meet people in this trauma recovery process who will try to convince you that “gratitude” is kind of a “cheat code” to recovery.
I’ve never believed that.
Especially on days like today, you’re going to hear a lot about gratitude.
On days like today, the culture is not particularly sensitive to people whose life experiences, especially their family experiences, have been painful or complicated.
You may or may not feel like you have a lot to be “thankful” for today— and that’s okay.
Acknowledging how painful or complicated your life has been does not make you “ungrateful.”
My father, a narcissistic addict, frequently weaponized the word “gratitude” against me.
To this day my trauma conditioning comes at me, telling me that I am not sufficiently “grateful.”
I’ll tell you right now that I am overwhelming grateful— but maybe not for the things the culture tells me I “should” be.
I am grateful I survived— though I wasn’t always.
Some days I was quite ambivalent about the fact that I was still alive.
Today I am grateful for recovery— but that has nothing to do with my family of origin.
I am overwhelmingly grateful for some of the books and music I stumbled across that saved my life.
I am overwhelmingly grateful for the Siamese cat that overwhelmingly enhanced my life for thirteen years— and that her passing last April was as peaceful as I could have asked for.
I am overwhelmingly grateful for a little orange kitten who has held my grieving heart as tenderly as I could ever hope for, and for the life saving songwriters who are his namesake.
I am overwhelmingly grateful for the humans whose voices I am listening to as I am writing this. A writer and an artist and a dancer and an adventurer who allow me the privilege of being in their lives.
I am grateful to be sober today.
I am grateful I did not believe trauma’s lies about whether I deserve to live.
I am grateful I can write. That I have this platform. That my words reach even one person, let alone as many as they do.
Believe me, I’m plenty grateful.
But I don’t tell anyone they “have” to be grateful— or anything else, for that matter.
Gratitude might be a tool in your recovery— or it might not. You get to decide that.
No one gets to tell you you “have” to be grateful, or anything else, to “deserve” recovery.
Your mileage will vary when it comes to how useful a tool gratitude is or isn’t in your recovery.
Don’t get up in your head about it. Really.
Today is a day in recovery. No more; no less.
If you are reading this, I am grateful for you.
Yes, you. Person reading this who thinks I’m not talking about you.
I am.
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