So England (euros) started thought I would be alright … which I was very wrong went out for just a couple ended up out for 3 days! What is going on I find this very hard to control need some advice on what people do to control the urge and not go out drinking! It’s becoming a joke in my life and really is rueining me as a person and everything around me!
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My advice is to make this a top priority in your life. Quitting and especially staying quit is work, and lots of it. It’s totally worth it though. My second tip is don’t go it alone. I have never met someone doing it alone and succeeding. I certainly couldn’t do it alone, while being together with my peers, sharing, communicating, supporting, learning from each other is what helped me to stay sober for over two years now. So go and find help! For lots of people in person or online peer to peer support works very well. Groups like AA, SMART, Dharma (Buddhist) Recovery, and more. Investigate. Check stuff out and try stuff. Put your heart in it. This is not something you just do as you might have found out by now. You can do this Josh but is very serious sh*t. All success to you. You are not alone.
PS. Football is one of the many things I thought I’d never enjoy again without drinking. Turns out to be just another lie addiction tells us. Enjoy the footy today. Sober.
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Thanks for your reply mte … yeah I’ve got to see this as like a job for myself not just attempt it then fail every 5 minutes … it has to be treated as a life style I suppose ? Proper need to get my head round it all properly and drill it into my head that i seriously cannot be drinking etc anymore and give it 100% of my time … again thanks for reply mate much appreciated
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Yes I think seeing sobriety as a a change of lifestyle is a very good description. Like drinking has been our lifestyle for so many years. And changing a lifestyle is hard work. Very well thought and said Josh. All success to you.
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Cheers and to yourself hope to see you around here good luck
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Understand that it all begins with one drink…the drink that matters…the first drink. If you say “no” to this drink, you win because there can’t be a second or third or eighth drink.
Rather than focusing on the seemingly overwhelming challenge of not getting drunk, perhaps focus on saying “no” to one drink…the drink that matters…the first drink.
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Hey buddy? I totally get where you are coming from. I have fallen off track many times. Unfortunately I have learned hard lessons from each time but a lesson none the less. I do recommend an IOP group or some other form. For me I was against AA type groups. Recently I started and trying all different ones out. I find the discussion group ones give a lot of perspective and help me be positive to stay on track. It’s hard to stay accountable to yourself sometimes. Having a group to lean on for now may help. There are others like SMART and AL Anon which are not 12 step but a more scientific way. You could even do both. I wish you the best. I’m on day 8 sober again. This time I’m going to groups every other day. It has helped with the urge dramatically and helped me find other things to do to keep focused. Stay well and strong.
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What’s IOP mate and the other science one you talk of ? Cheers
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Stay home watch on tv .soft drink packet crisps lovely jubbly ,
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Lovely jubbly 
… Saying no to the first one gives you strength … You can do it 
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Intensive Outpatient Program.
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Is this a thing in the uk ? Sorry for all the questions lol
I have no knowledge of outpatient programs in the UK as I’m Dutch myself but for sure there are these sort of programs in the UK too. I just googled it and a lot comes up. Do some research Josh, invest in your recovery! Like find out what these organizations are, what that offer these programs, i.e. are they based on religion, are they there for profit, are they covered by insurance? What suits you? It’s your journey friend. And recovery is a verb. Success again. outpatient alcohol treatment UK - Google Search
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US here, not UK.
I felt anxious when the euro started as when events happen I usually end up in the pub and drunk . I’ve changed everything to stop the temptation, I stayed in and watched the matches at home, granted I felt like I was missing out but I know my sobriety comes first and I actually felt good about it in the end . Seeing the bad head parents at the school made me glad I chose to stay sober .
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IOP is intensive outpatient which usually goes 3 days a week. You also have S.M.A.R.T. which end goal is the same as AA but a little different.
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I understand where you are coming from. I’m tired of relapsing, my life has become so unmanageable. I am serious about getting sober and I have decided to take a leave of absence from my job to focus on me. We can do this and recover , it’s possible we just have to finally surrender
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Hi @Josiewosie ! Good for you for taking a LOA. Take care of you! I did an IOP while on LOA and multiple meetings a day. I’m now at 3.5 months sober. Proud of you for putting your sobriety first.
Yeah that’s pretty much where I’m at proper had enough of it all … signed up to this orginsation health in mind just waiting for them to respond then see where that takes me … drinking or what ever really ain’t worth it if you can’t do it … it’s just the amount of time it take you to finally release and as you said surrender to it x
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Hello people hope your all doing well and staying strong 
it’s the only way and if you are struggling let out have a chatt about it
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