apparently I didn’t post this last night
So I’m on day six, night 7 of being sober. Something I’ve been working towards off and on for months. Anyways. BF is still drinking… That’s whatever, he can do him. Something I’m noticing especially yesterday and this morning, idk if this is going to be right for me, the relationship.
That sucks 
I’m sorry about that, it sucks to have those kinds of arguments.
Eric has a good thread with lots of posts and shares about living with a partner who is struggling with addiction; maybe you can find some insight there? Or at least for sure you will find people who can relate:
Congratulations on your sober time 
Sobriety kind of ‘cleans our glasses’ and suddenly things that were blurry and not noticeable become clear and obvious.
Do whats right for you and the life you want to live.
Congrats on your sober time. It is not easy to get sober when your partner is still drinking. But it can be done. Your sobriety is yours and yours alone.
You know your relationship and will have to make your own decision on that, whatever is best for you!
@Matt thank you for posting this. Both my parents were into alcohol and drugs, thankfully my mom kinda cleaned her act up to take care of us kids, but… Yeah it’s only been a week and I’m like… I may need some support for this. Cuz he is a daily drinker, and it’s kinda shitty watching where he’s at even though it’s only been one week for me fully sober, I’ve been working towards it.
Yeah when we first started hanging out we were both drinking, and we’ve been drinking almost every day together for over two years. So we will see how this goes with me sober, which he’s been asking me to do for months now, or cut back, and well here it is! Me sober… Idk if he’s gonna like it
Is his drinking something you have mentioned or wouldnt mind bringing to his attention? Especially if he knows where you’re at and feelings about it getting in the way of the relationship and hopefully not your progress.
We haven’t talked much about it, we work different shifts, so not a lot of face to face time. Especially when he’s sober, and I prefer a sober conversation.
Congratulations on your 2 weeks. Not every relationship lasts forever, that is something I have learned over the years, nor is that a bad thing. Life is full of beautiful expansive experiences and lots of people. Being with someone who makes you feel good about your self and your choices, who lifts you up, not puts you down, who you trust, admire and respect…it is a wonderful thing. Relationships aren’t always easy and sometimes you will want out, but if your partner is a kind, honest, loving, respectful human (not perfect, none of us are, but truly embodies those values), then put in the work and make your life and relationship all you dream of. Relationships should be a value add to our lives. Hard talks need to be had when life changes, it is okay to have respectful, honest hard talks. It is a big adjustment for you both, it may take some time. Wishing you all the best. 
Thank you so much, only one week in, but it’s been a good experience. He does have those values, just some things this week made me go WTF.
Ah, well 2 weeks soon come!! 
In my experience, we tend to be easily annoyed in early sobriety and quick to anger and find offense. Giving our selves some grace as we detox and begin the healing process is important. Treat your self gently and with love if possible.
I found it really hard to maintain my sobriety when my ex was still smoking. That really sucks!!! Amazing job on your progress so far though 
I always told people “he can smoke, but I won’t” and that never worked out. I always went back. Just remember how much better you feel (or will feel) by NOT drinking.
Good luck!!!
Oh I’m definitely annoyed lol it will pass. Talking with my doctor tomorrow about how things are going.
My last relationship was similar(last 3 tbh 
). I met him as a drunk. He blamed me for turning him into a drunk. Initially, I got sober for him, but that’s when I realized maybe I was only half the problem. I got close to 5 months while we were together, with the help of this community and AA. Then covid hit, we got trapped together, I relapsed and couldn’t quit again for 3 more years(which was long after he moved out).
What I found helpful in the beginning was to observe more than to interact with someone under the influence. The most important thing to remember is you’re in control of your own actions, and more importantly, reactions. Situations don’t have to escalate as they once did.
Well done on a week 
Stay or leave? Ultimately, the choice is yours. Pick the one that feels right in the future you want. All the best 