I recently went through a situation where i lost what i thought was a good friend but now that the distance is there and some time has gone by i realized how draining it was on me. The individual who i will refer to as “Betty” is a very insecure person. She is 16 years older than me and i constantly was always reassuring her and always listening to her talk excessively about herself. She was always saying we needed to get together and hang out but she was always too busy and had reasons on why she couldn’t do anything and with me having borderline personality disorder, all it did was trigger my feelings of abandonment. It goes to show just because someone isnt vindictive or flat out mean, doesn’t mean they can’t be a drain or a negative influence on you.
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I’m sorry you had to go through that. But I’m glad you recognized it for what it was and didn’t let it detour your recovery. Toss out the toxicity and focus on YOU. Because you deserve a hundred percent!
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I actually blocked her number because i am not going back down that road. I hope she does well in life but she aint eating at my table anymore.
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It’s hard. I’ve learned (gradually) that I need to take care with myself, and that’s what keeps me going. It’s still hard when something is off like you’re sharing here. It definitely sucks 
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Im ready to have the right people in my life.
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Sounds good 
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It is important to one’s recovery to remove toxic people from your life. You made a wise decision.
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