So now that I have a little time. I thought I would go in depth with the abyss I have lived in for so long. Despite the title I won’t share all of my demons. Some of them are too painful or embarassing to share with total strangers.
My whole life since I was 16 had been one of selfishness. Substance abuse. I was a power lifter in high school. I qualified for the junior olympics. I am a Marine OIF vet. I was a brilliant student. Really intelligent.
But alcohol , weed and drugs got in the way. In the end alcohol was the main one. Every bad decision I have made was a result of alcohol being a factor. Every arrest I have had. Alcohol was a factor.
Because of me a fellow Marine got killed. I convinced him to go to a bar. He ended up crossing the road getting hit by a car. If it had not been for me convincing him. He never would have went out that night. I carry that on my shoulders.
I was accused of rape shortly after. About seven months. I was innocent. Though it took a year to bring it to a courtmartial before I was aquitted.
In all of that I just boozed heavier. I began to hate everything. A few years after I got out of the Corps. I was diagnosed with ptsd. I drank to cover that too .
The only God I ever truly served was the bottle. I was and am selfishness incarnate. When I look back. I know why I wasnt invited to friends weddings. Because I was a drunk.
It gets bad when even chatters on a chat site know you are a drunk. Call you that. When everyone around you calls you that. Funny a drunk is the last to know what they are.
I had an abusive childhood. Still fills me with rage to this day. That I can not seem to let go and heal. My grandfather wanted nothing to do with me. I grew up not knowing what grandparents really were .
I have lied , cheated and acted about as dishonorably as one can imagine. It is gravely shameful when I look back at my life.
I never knew love. I was too concerned with getting drunk to give a damn. One night stands. More then I can remember. While my friends were building families . Having meaningful fulfilling relationships. I was doing the opposite.
I feel like this life and all the boozing I have done. Has made me lose my soul. I dont feel like I am anything other then superficial. I dont know how to love.
I know I am loyal to those few that I can tell care. I would give the shirt off my back for those people. But in the end maybe thats just superficial too. Because the same people I care about. I have manipulated and been selfish towards.
In closing I think my personal hell became so powerful. I wanted to force that hell and pain on others. In a twisted sense so I wouldnt be alone.
Now I want to be sober and learn to live. Because all I have been doing is been a living death.
I have to believe there is hope and its not too late. Because if there is no hope. If it is too late. To learn to live and love. Then there is no point in getting sober.
So despite it all. I choose to believe I can change.