There is always some around, and people using daily. I have been offered to use almost daily. I’ve just decided to get sober 10 days ago. And I am very proud of myself for saying no each time. But it’s hard to continue to choose sobriety when it’s always within reach. Looking for some ways to make it easier, or things you do to keep control when someone offers your DoC.
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Hi and welcome to the community 
Congratulations on your 10 days, this is a great decision you have made.
Keep saying no, it will get easier the obvious answer is to not be around it but that isnt as easy to do as everyones situation is different.
Keep yourself busy and have your day planned out and something you can look forward to for yourself in the evenings that helps you stay away from it. 
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Also maybe try out some meetings where you can meet more people on the same journey as yourself.
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If you can handle it, explain the why to those who offer it to you. Might help, at least help yourself in strenghtening you resolve. And welcome to Talking Sober! This place can be a great help too!
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I would, but I am not in a place where I can go…
I used to work at a place where many of my coworkers were in sober living and they all gossip about one another and are always causing issues in each other’s lives. And I am nervous I’d end up at a meeting with some of them. I am desperate for peace, and not really ready to talk in a meeting 
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I totally understand that
There are some online meetings where you can have your camera off, not trying to push meetings on to you - just incase you didnt know.
You have done amazing getting through 10 days already so you have the strength inside to do this, it must be so difficult to be around and be offered it i just want to say im proud of you for getting this far by yourself and its great you are here with us.
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Could you tell me how to access the online meetings?? 
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I tried an online S.M.A.R.T meeting and really enjoyed it. Like @Twizzlers says you dont need your camera on and can sit in the background if you wish.
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Download the app ‘In the rooms’ and also you can check out this link
The link is for NA online meetings over the world.
My drug of choice is alcohol so im more familiar with AA if that would help i know a good meeting online off the top of my head ?
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Iv not tried this, just wanted to say thanks i may check this out myself too.
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im going to try yours 
Thank you.
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Well, there’s alcohol here too, but I I’d need an NA meeting. (Not sure of all the rules on the app just yet tbh so i don’t know if saying specifics is ok or not)
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Thanks for the resources y’all 
much love
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It doesn’t get easier. You get stronger. Each time you say “no” to the drink that matters, the first drink, you are completing a repetition in an exercise of your will.
Say I decided I wanted stronger arms. In order to achieve this, I would grab a challenging weight and move it in a precise direction, and I would do this repeatedly. If I do this consistently eventually the weight no longer becomes challenging, and I can now move it easily. Did the weight get lighter? No, I grew stronger.
Exercising the mind is the same. Each and every time you refuse to drink, you’re completing one repetition of the exercise. Keep doing it and one day the “no” will come effortlessly, because of the mental strength you’ve developed.
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Well it’s 83 days later, And I’m still having the same issue.
However @Yoda-Stevie you’re right.
Now it’s just making me angry, frustrated, annoyed…
Not tempted.
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