I know I’ve had a problem with alcohol for some time. Lost a few relationships over it but they were toxic anyways. I also have an addictive personality which has lead me to make other bad decisions. I was pulled over and got a dui this week and I’m mortified. Definitely a wake up call and like so many others my stress and anxiety is through the roof. Im focused that I can’t even think about drinking right now because of what happened even though drinking my woes away would generally be my first start. I downloaded this app today and am ready to turn things around. My plate is already full and now I’m so overwhelmed. I’m on thin ice at work and terrified of losing my job. I’m inspired hearing how people feel like themselves because I too am an amazing person with a great attitude but these past few years the real me has been angry, depressed, unmotivated and a shadow of the person I truly am. Here’s to the journey and a better future.
Hey there. Welcome to the community, some great ppl here to help you along your path. I have 3 dwis myself, been without a license for 7 years now. Wish I would of learned at my first, but I was never honest with myself and thought drinking was the problem. Out of all the bad decisions you think you may of made, be easy on yourself and love yourself. Today you made the first best decision you possibly could for yourself, so be proud. This journey is worth it, remember all the feelings you have, write them down. So you can always remember what you don’t want to go through again. The reason I say write them down, is because we get comfortable and forget and are minds try to trick us into thinking we can handle it again. It’s always gonna be the same outcomes. Since you have a addictive personality, turn them into positives. Hiking, swimming, kayaking, art, guitar, weight lifting. The possibilities are endless with sobriety.
Welcome Rae. Good to have you aboard. Time to find the real you again. Step one is to be sober and stay sober. It’s work but it’s a work of love and so worth it. Stay with us, read, post, comment, support, be suipported. Stay with us. Success on your journey!
I know dealing with the DUI consequences can be stressful. I got one back in 2013. The positive you can pull from it, is that this can be the catalyst for your recovery. It may not feel positive right now, but we usually have to hit a pretty big low to decide we want to change. Granted the low or bottom looks different for everyone.
There are people on here that have long term sobriety and have changed the course of their lives for the better. None of us arrive at the beginning of our recovery journey on a winning streak. We all get here because our lives aren’t going well. Yet there are many who’ve been able to turn that around. See what they’re doing to stay sober and recover. Try implementing some of it into your life and see if it helps.
Thank you all so much. I appreciate all these comments and words of support. I already feel like this is going to be an incredibly positive community to be a part as my current circle are pretty degenerate and though they are good people with big hearts the lifestyle isn’t ultimately healthy. I had a total melt down this evening but I’m feeling better. Baby steps xo
Welcome, Rae! I’m really glad you’re here and sorry to hear about the dui. I hope someday you’ll see it as the start of when you got the real Rae back.
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Thank you so much. I need to remember not to best myself up so much. People make mistakes but that doesn’t mean its the end of the world even though right now it really feels like it
Welcome to this awesome community! thank you for sharing your story. I can not relate to the dui but to the angry person appearing to cover up the awesome version. Due to circumstances my life over the last few years keeps falling apart ut of my control and without knowing how to fix. I have been fighting and fighting to keep it all together but I did not manage. I have been feeling so lonely that I cover up with anger, and all suppressed stuff. I have not been well over the last few days, did some crazy stuff so Am here on the forum every hour now and your post helped me realise you are never alone in the dark pits we sometimes have.
Stick around, stay sober!
blessings
Hello there. Sorry to hear about your DUI, but if it served as something of a wake-up call, perhaps some good will come from it.
That being said, I don’t need to downplay how much of a drag that must be.
In your message, you mentioned having an “addictive personality”. With that in mind, I strongly suggest that you purchase / download Alan Carr’s book “Stop drinking” (or something along those lines), that you can find for download on Amazon for only about five American dollars. There is some very interesting information in there about addictive personalities.
Personally, I found that book to be very useful, and I hope that it might be of benefit to you as well.
In any event, you have come to a good place.
Please don’t think of this as your “first”. Change your thought to “only” dui. You’ll never have another now that you’re sober.
I got my only dui last September and that was my rock bottom. I never wanna get that low again so I use it as fuel in my sobriety. The amount of money I’ve paid in attorney fees and fines was overwhelming but taking care of it with a clear head is so much easier. When I went in front of the judge, it felt great to tell him I was 3 months sober at that point. I still got the loss of license, interlock, fines and classes but it still felt good to show him I was bettering myself.
Come here often and read and interact. This forum has so much to offer. I look forward to following your journey.
Hey what’s up man. It is scary, but do it while you’re young so you can have a Brite future. I wish I would of when I was 18. I got my first dwi when I was 17, and I didn’t learn shit from it. Well I did, but didn’t thinking drinking was the problem, so I continued drinking and next thing you know I was 21 with my second dwi and almost ran a cop over, I still miraculously got my license back after that and jumping through hoops, but I was stupid and still said fuck it I’m gonna keep partying, I didn’t want to lose my friends. So I kept going and got my 3rd when I was 23 I’m now 30 years old and still don’t have a license. I just got done paying 3,000 dollars in fines. I am kind of close to having it back, but I’m gonna have a interlock device for 2 years that cost like 1200 to put in and then has to be maintained monthly… Sobriety isn’t easy bud, but it’s worth it. When your young we think it’s all there is to do. And how to fit in, but trust me fitting in isn’t always cool. Get sober, and things will fall into place for you. Party all the time and it will keep falling apart. I’m here if you ever need to talk bud.