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Sorry you’re going through this. That is was addicts do hide things, maybe to not to tell the other person the truth out of guilt and shame etc. As I get it she shared some things from her past, mainly because you asked for it. That’s an assumption so correct me if I’m wrong. She might haven’t told the whole truth because of previous reasons. It has nothing to do with you, but with her. I understand your feelings of anger and disappoint. But it’s her stuff to deal with and heal from it. Being honest goes a long way, but it needs to be in a lovingly way. Mentioning that a new born baby is ugly might b honest but not very lovingly. My ex dropped a lot of things on my doorstep, out of herself but also because I kept asking. She in no way knows how that effected me and our relationship. Just like this is effecting you. In my case it resulted in what they call transferred trauma. I just should have walked away, since she was clearly not healed from it. I of course was easy to blame, because I was the addict. She to, but in different areas, more behavioral stuff and not willingly to deal with it. I don’t know if this is any helpful, I wish you all the best 
It’s not wrong to be upset and aware of your girlfriend’s problems. What I’m concerned about is that you’re too distracted with her problems, when it would be more helpful to put more attention into your problems.
Relationships are co-created by 2 people coming together. I could spend my whole day complaining about my wife’s problems, but it would do me little good. Because there is nothing that I can do to her and nothing that she could do to me,
that would fix the problems within me
I’m responsible for dealing with the problems within me, and she’s responsible for dealing with the problems within her.
Rather than focusing on how I can fix my wife, a better question to ask would be,
Why did I co-create this relationship?
By the way,
Faking climax, lying, flirting with an ex, are not problems, but rather symptoms of a deeper rooted problem or problems. Too many times, we get overly focused on the symptoms, and ignore looking at the root problems such as shame, a broken relationship with God, lack of support and connection, a faulty understanding of masculinity vs. femininity. These are examples of major root problems; far more serious than their symptoms. And she definitely has deep rooted problems.
But she’s not the only one with such serious problems. You have them too. It’s not wrong to uncover and identify her problems. Just don’t forget to pay more attention to your own.
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Honestly IMHO, move on.
The lies are enough, and is something that sooner or later will destroy a relationship.
And…food for thought.
You only know of the lies, faking and deception in what’s been exposed and discussed. How much more do you “don’t” know…?
Wish you luck my friend, but life’s too short to be stressed out, worried, and wandering constantly about a partner when you could be focusing, solidifying and grounding your own self-love and mindset 