My husband is a user… I’m clean… Anyways I’m sick of him staying up all night. How do I know is cause the baby wakes up. It will be after midnight. He’ll be doing something in the other room, or gone. Like tonight I wake up, its 4am the other room lights are on but he’s not home. It pisses me off. All the time I feel like he has to be using to be with me or on my days off, he don’t like being around me I feel that way, he’ll be outside or in the other room… He don’t like sleeping with me, he sleeps on couch… When I try hangout and talk to.him when the kids r asleep, its like he don’t want to hangout with me… I think he likes places that is “meth friendly” than to be with his family… I’m tired of working and when he works, he says “he not got paid yet”… I’m tired of being tired. Wondering where’s he at and what’s he doing or who’s he’s with. I’m emotional drained and physically drain. I’m tired of him using.
Have you tried Al-Anon or Nar-Anon? I have no direct experience with these groups, but they have helped some of my alcoholic friends with alcoholic family tremendously. Blessings on your house.
Sorry that you are going through that. It’s most important that you personally stay clean. Now that you are though you are starting to want to deal with problems in your life.
It’s always suggested to take this slow in early sobriety. I don’t know how long you have been clean. However, I think you should seek counselling and decide whether this is a good relationship for you. The suggestion of visiting al-anon or the equivalent is a very good one as well. Everyone there has family members with addiction problems and knows the kind of things you are going through.
I know you’re tired. I lnow you cam see things more clearly now that you’re clean, but I agree with LeilaBird- right now you need to focus on staying sober yourself. For you and your kids. It’s obvious he’s not going to do it. And I know you’re used tp a certain lifestyle with meth use. But it’s not normal for a guy with a family and responsibilities to sneak out at night. But this is tricky territory. Dealing with a highly emotional relationship while you’re so new to being sober is dangerous. Hang back, stay sober and gauge your situation. Above all be safe and everything will work itself out.