I’m new here. 20 days sober from alcohol. My wife and I have been on the outs and I thought we would pull through with some space. She told me today that she is done. We have a house and four pets. I’m torn up. Having so much unknown about the future is terrifying. I’m going to stay strong but this is the hardest temptation to drink so far. I’m glad I found this forum.
Believe me. If you go out and drink you will regret it. You are a better man now. You don’t need no substance or even another person to tell you what to do or how to feel. It lies within your mind. Mind over matter.
It may seem like the worst right now, trust me I know I have broke up with my ex a few times over my drinking. If you can pull this and show her you mean business about getting sober then there may be hope. But maybe right now she needs space. Remember actions speak louder than words and that is something I myself still struggle with at times. Chin up
just stay strong I’m going through the same but married with children and it seems my marriage is at the end of the road but I’ve stayed sober today, just taking it one day at a time
just say your prayers and keep your Hopes up I’m dealing with the same with my wife who I’ve been with for 11 years I wanted to drink so bad yesterday and just blank out the world but I resisted and stayed sober made it through another 24
Stay strong! Drinking is only going to make things worse and push her further away. You have to want sobriety for yourself. Don’t do this for anyone else. Staying sober will make you a better person all the way around, with her or without her. Make this a priority and everything else will fall into place. Remember the old saying…set it free and if it comes back to you then it’s meant to be.
Sobriety will win! One day at a time. This is a great community.
That’s all we can do sometimes one moment at a time
Sorry to hear, breaking up is a hard thing. Had to go trough in ones years ago. Please stay focussed, because I know you are struggeling now. Seek extra help if you need it, maybe AA and meet new sober friends? Ore increase your visits here: venting and helping others will help you in your recovery proces!
Take good care of yourself now!