My sister is in need

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I have made it to 9th month. Feels great. My older sister is really struggling and I don’t feel I can help because I’m still just too fragile. She’s building up a wrap sheet. I see her get busted too often for public intoxication. She has 2 OWI’s under her belt and of course I don’t judge because I f@cked up so much. But now with my journey it’s hard to even relate to her. Realizing so much of what we had together was just partying. It’s like a brother/sister version of “Days of Wine and Roses.” I feel for her and want to help, but am afraid to be pulled into something I don’t need. I wasted so much time and feel I need to appreciate the time I can now. I feel it’s okay to be selfish in that way. But I love her and wish she wanted to admit to herself the way I did. I of course know it’s one’s own journey. Basically I came here to just say it out in the ether and not hold it in. Congrats to all of you sticking it out. You are loved.
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I often wake up and play this song to remind myself I HAVE OPTIONS!

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Of course you love her and want her healthy. :people_hugging: And I am glad to read you love yourself and want what is best for you as well. We each travel our own path. It is hard to see our loved ones suffer, my younger brother is incarcerated and it is heart breaking. Please take care of yourself. :heart: And big congrats on your 9 months!!! :partying_face:

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It’s fundamentally kind to want to help your sister, and to consider the well-being of others. It’s also essential that you remain available to help, that is, that you protect your own sobriety. And the desire to help is often best realized by you being the best role model of sobriety you can be for your sister. She has to want what you have before she can ask for it. You can remind her by your actions that you are sober and happy. Your words to her are that it is possible for her too.

You know the limits of what you can do for her, even when what you can do falls short of what you want to do.

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THANK YOU! This was my first time writing. It felt good and it felt good to be heard. I really appreciate it. :heart:

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Congrats! Nine months is huge!

Sometimes the best thing we can do is live by example.

When people see the change in you, it can become something they want to know more about.

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Thank you!
And agreed. That is my hope. This is my first time writing. It felt good and it feels good to be heard.

Very much appreciated!

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Welcome! This place is amazing. Its 24/7 and its been great for my recovery. I’m glad your here!

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Yeah I was of course skeptical of using this platform as we often are about EVERYTHING in living sober. Hah.

Again thanks. It’s a nice succour in a wary moment in life. :+1::victory_hand:

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