I know I don’t have a leg to stand on but on Sunday I did drink and me and boyfriend had a massive bust up I know it’s only 2 days but he said support me and stay with me atleast for the first week. But tonight he’s going out and I know it’s not in my face but this is usually when I’d drink and think fuck it. Just feeling really deflated and needed a rant 
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Shannen, I’m glad you’re here and checking in! And good for you for knowing what triggers you. What can you do to protect your sobriety? Can you talk to someone? Distract yourself? Don’t let the fight with your bf be an excuse to drink –that will definitely not help. I am rooting for you! 
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To be honest I have no idea the pressure is just a lot at the min I’m jiw Gona be the and take it hour by hour maybe go on a zoom call later. Just all new territory and I didn’t expect to be facing it this quickly after only stopping on Sunday..thank you for replying though 
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Hour by hour, minute by minute, is sometimes the only way to do it. And you are so worth the effort. A zoom call is a great idea…let us know how it goes! Rooting for you. 
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yeah literally might be minute by minute tonight in my case 
but again thankyou just them 2 comments has helped 
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Hey — I hear how deflated you’re feeling. First, having one drink on Sunday doesn’t mean you don’t have a leg to stand on. You’re trying, and slips can happen.
Tonight is sounding like a “fuck it” trigger moment because your boyfriend is out and it hits that old habit. Instead of fighting the feeling, just aim to get through tonight without drinking. Put something on in the background, have a non-alcoholic drink in your hand, and tell yourself you can decide tomorrow.
I know you feel tired and low right now, but this doesn’t undo the effort you’re making.
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Be kind to yourself and I recommend doing what you normally never do in the evening. Best of my personal gotos: Deep clean the toilet, go for a long walk (i never walked in the evening), clean all mirrors in the house, go to bed at 8 and lights off, white noise on.
Come here, check in as often as you want, we are at your side, in your pocket. You are not alone 
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@DanielaJ @erntedank that is literally it i think fuck it he’ll be drunk when he gets in anyway but I know that’s the problem like I need to realise cause other people are drinking doesn’t mean I have too specially when I’m not even there..but I am happy to say I just worked out gona get a shower bed and white noise like you said I’ve got one them brains when I need to plan and then I’m okay but cause he just sprung it on me I was like holy cow what do I do so had a little cry but then got busy so so far I’d say tonight has been a win so far
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You can do it, just for tonight!
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Go for it, @Shannen ! You’ll have a sober evening down, and that is such a win!
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Its all FOMO…but then if you really think about it…what exactly are you missing out on? Getting in a state and regretting stuff….there is nothing in this world that booze cannot make worse, stick to your guns girl 
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Wishing you a restful night and sweet dreams 
Nobody ever regreted waking up sober 
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Oh trust me the youre drinking so im drinking does not help the relationship. Dont let his use be your excuse. You have identified you want to stop. Write down all your reasons on why you want to quit.
Also create a list of triggers and counter actions you can take when getting close to fuck it addictive thinking. You can get thru tonight. Stay close. Heck go to bed early if need be
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Good morning Shannen, hope you are ok?
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I can safely say I actually did it I took everyone’s advice I got an early night still was abit tempted so came back here and just kept reading the posts over and over and was just agreeing with everything so I was like if I’m agreeing I obviously don’t need to drink clearly..also I feel super like f**k you I did it carry on and I’ll do the same every week 
just wana say a massive thank you to everyone I forgot how important it is to have a community who can help and actually understands
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Yay you!
Very happy to hear this. On for today! We’re all here for you if you need to check in.
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Heyyyy that’s awesome! Good for you!! Feels good to wake up sober, doesn’t it?? So proud of you for hanging in there!!
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Honestly forgot how good it felt considering it could have been a lot worse made it even better been a long while since someone’s said their proud of me so thank you..but yeah hopefully onwards and upwards now
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Ditch that ‘hopefully’ to i can and I will do it, which you can because you proved it last night
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Oh dear, we are PROUD of you
Keep going, one day at a time, nobody ever regretted waking up sober
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