Today I am attending a Christmas party where many people have “told” me I am drinking tonight. I have no intentions of drinking but I have anxiety about it. Thanks
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That would make me more determined if they’re saying that!
You can do this, it’s your choice!
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I was due to go to a christmas parade where there is booze but i decided not to as i am not strong enough yet, if you aren’t certain don’t put yourself in that position
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I have skipped two Christmas Parties for that reason. My best friend is coming as support be I’m still a little nervous.
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Just keep vigilant of the AV, day 1 is crap as we all know, wishing you well and strength
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Congrats on 23 days.
I wouldn’t go to a Christmas party that early in my recovery. I wouldn’t be able to do it.
Anyway…… you can always change your mind right up until you get there. Nothing wrong with that.
While your there. Always have a beverage in your hand so no one is pushing booze on ya. And have an escape plan.
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Remind yourself why you joined here. I know it’s hard but we know what the outcome could be.
If you’re at the party long enough to see the switch when people are getting loud, etc…you’ll be glad to head out sober.
Good luck, check back here if you need to while you’re there! 
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I gave myself at least 3 months before i was around alcohol of any kind…since the 3 months ive done 2 outings where alcohol was around so far but both times were with people who were very supportive…i would be very careful of being around people who will try and push you to drink…your sobriety is more important than any Christmas party- just saying
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Strength wont help you ,better not go if you want to stay sober or Please your friend keep us posted on your night
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Hi there, I’m on day 26 and I had my Xmas show last Friday, It was surprisingly easy. I did however take some non alcoholic beer’s. I wish I knew how to link you to the post I wrote about it. A few people were in trouble for their behaviour.
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Is it just me, i can’t take even non alcoholic drinks as it triggers me, or put any drink into a wine glass as i would be off boozing
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Unfortunately most people don’t respect boundaries like that if they feel it’s going to take something from them.
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This is so true!
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Same, each to their own but i dont see the point of non alcoholic drinks as it reminds me of drinking…i dont want to be reminded, i want change
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My thoughts exactly
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I really only took the non alcoholic beer so others didn’t feel uncomfortable around me. Maybe take a lemon so you can squeeze it into some water, good detox.
People were asking me why I was on the zeros, I just replyed ‘im deso driver’
I did give a few people lifts home, it was s surreal feeling driving around at night sober!
In all honesty you have to learn to HATE alcohol. It stole my childhood, it has ruined my life!
Please write down all of the pros and con’s of drinking and run the list through you head at the Xmas show. You’ve got this!
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I hate it too…i really understand that feeling. It took so much from me im done with it…like if it was a friend of mine id never speak to it again
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I’m not at the christmas show, if anyone asks me why i am not drinking i just say it doesn’t agree with me end of conversation, its no ones buisness as far as i am concerned, i am doing this to save my life and a few more years with my beautiful kids
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Why are people saying that you will drink at this party? Are they activelly trying to “test” your sobriety? That’s the opposite of a support group!
Seems like a situation to avoid, if I ever saw one.
In my early days I stayed away from situations and people who would put my sobriety in jeopardy.
One thing I learned from this group is that there were very few occasions that I “had” to attend. Most of them if you skip it, it really doesn’t matter. To them, and to you, in the big scheme of things.
If you decide to go, as mentioned above, have a non-alcoholic drink in your hand at all times, check in here if you feel like you need support, and have a plan to leave early if you decide the scene is not for you.
During my first 90-180 days I stayed away from liquor aisles in grocery stores, movie theaters where I drank and every work and personal party with a lane excuses as me not drinking would be an issue to other drink buddies there. AA helped me like crazy during this time.
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