Need to get out more lmao

My boyfriend and I went our separate ways, and now I’m back in with my mom. I’m realizing I don’t have many friends - I need to get out more but I get so awkward when trying to make friends!! I find it funny though. I’m grateful I’m able to laugh at myself - but seriously I need to expand my social circle! :joy: help! Lmao

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I don’t have any specific advice but I have been there; I remember once sitting in my living room thinking “I don’t have any friends!” (That wasn’t totally true of course, but I was feeling like I didn’t have anyone to hang out with, to share experiences with.)

For me I made some friends by going back to school, which I enjoyed. I took a one year program and I made a couple of good friends there who I am still in touch with (one I still have a virtual breakfast with on Saturday mornings every two weeks! :innocent: It’s been four years and we are still going strong).

Weirdly - or maybe not weirdly? - I have made some very good friends in my sobriety groups. I joined SA (Sexaholics Anonymous); there are dozens of other groups, with many different programs and philosophies (there’s a good list here: Resources for our recovery). The friends I have made there are people who understand me very deeply. It is a peaceful feeling to be understood in this way.

I guess my advice is just to choose something that is done with groups of people, and go do it. You’ll meet people and you will make some connections. Most of the people will move along when the program is done but a few of the people will be friends you keep actively engaged with.

You can do it!

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I can understand the need to expand a social circle and get out more. Have you tried joining Meetups in the area. I have had great luck making some amazing friends through them.

Also possibly joining some sort of classes (pottery, art, music etc). This may allow you to enjoy your passion as well as meet some people with like minded interests.

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