Im 80 day sober today and just having a hard time just still getting in contact with mt higher power. I done the 2nd and 3rd step now on the 4th but its like i dont feel that same feeling when i was little and that close to god. I know it takes time and im just getting use to my feelings but its like should i be feeling sometbing i see blessings and everyday is a blessing and im grateful just having a hard time with just really connecting and i feel bad…
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Recieve Gods blessing. Stay close to God and you will begin to see the blessing. It will be OK. You are not in this walk alone
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My first sponsor was super great in my early days and suggested I write a personal 3rd step prayer that involved my HP. My words, my idea of what I truly feel my HP is & means to me. Its strength and support for me and my quest to live.
As I’ve gone further along in the steps and working with others my connection to my HP has strengthened. I think yours will too as long as keep up your progress in sobriety. So glad you’re here Chelsea!
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Thats awesome you are working the steps and building your relationship with your higher power. Be sure to spend time in prayer and meditation.
I felt like i was doing it wrong because i didnt feel that constant connection and someone shared that you gotta work at it and its normal to not feel that presence 24/7.
Practicing gratitude helps me loads.
Good luck on your spiritual journey 
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I was raised an ‘on paper’ Roman Catholic, outside of baptism, communion, confirmation etc, I wasn’t often taken to church. Christmas sometimes, that was it. It wasn’t until I was in my thirties I felt a real need to connect with God. I hadn’t really believed in Him before. He couldn’t have been real if my parents didn’t seem to think it very important to go to church regularly, right…?
I had a lot if work to do. Both of my parents died when I was in my thirties, and all of a sudden I had to face the reality of what happens to us after death. I didn’t necessarily turn to God because they had died, but their deaths were a catalyst to make me really think about it. I had really only lived for the ‘now’ before, never about what happened next, if anything.
For me, I needed to go back to the start. I watched videos about the life of Christ, I watched documentaries about his time here. I started reading about the order of mass, practicing the old prayers I used to know. I began using rosary beads that belonged to my grandmother. I love praying the rosary, the beads feel like such a powerful tool.
I don’t mean to assume you’re Catholic, the point I’m really trying to make is that in order to make the steps work for you, maybe you need to build on your knowledge of God as you perceive God to be. For me, when I built up my knowledge, I strengthened my faith. It all made more sense to me.
I hope you find a way to connect to God, and wish you the very best on your sober journey 
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Congratulations on ur 80 days of sobriety! Way to go! And great job working the steps. I felt the same way initally when i began getting in touch with my HP but now its much different. Youre right in that it can take time. Just like any relationship in our every day lives, our relationship with our HP takes daily work. I find i feel more connected when i pretend im talking to a friend sitting next to me. I will just talk openly and honestly with my HP and ask for guidance and direction in my life. If your HP is God (mine wasnt always God but is now), theres a free app called Youversion Bible app that is really good! I use it daily in the mornings to connect with my HP. I do find that connecting to God in the mornings is crucial for a better day. And then connecting here n there throughout the day for extra guidance. And not everyday will u feel super connected. Some days i do and some days i dont. But i think what matters to our HP is that we make the effort
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Way to go on EIGHTY days! Glad you’re here. I was raised in the church but I never knew God like I know Him now. Prayer has made all the difference. Talk to God the moment your eyes open by thanking him and asking for guidance. Be specific.
For those who feel more comfortable with terms that are not God-like, I read an expression recently that said you could try using the term Higher Good.
Sobriety that is void of Spirituality is despondency. (a state of low spirits caused by loss of hope or courage)
Don’t be afraid to stick around on Step 3 for awhile. I really had to learn this through experiencing sober life. You really need to be able to have trust in your HP when you start to get into the weeds on a fourth step. This isn’t a race. There is no set time you have to complete the steps. HP comes to us thru willingness, action and humbly. I find myself more connected when in nature.
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There is no rush to get through the steps so give yourself a break
Also your higher power doesn’t have to a religious one