I’m not sober yet but I need to make a concious effort. I’m a very stressed mum and suffer with a lot of anxiety which causes me to drink more. I’ve been in denial that I have a problem, but drinking every day is my normal… then I wake up feeling riddled with anxiety so I drink again to feel normal. That’s what I’m doing now as I type this. I had a blackout last night where I can’t remember much - I went to bed early as I knew I was checking out. I’m not feeling great today.
I hate the term Alcoholic, so I’ve avoided talking about it as a problem. Me and my husband both need to cut down or stop completely because it’s not the lives we want. My husband has a 9-5 job and I’m a stay at home mum and it gets quite monotonous and I need to find things to pass the time.
I am new here, too.
I am married to a wonderful man who has been my drinking buddy for 42 years. We were “functional” drinkers long enough to raise our family and build up our savings for retirement.
After we both retired the wheels fell off the bus and we fell into day drinking- which turned into all day drinking. Then pass out -get up and do it again. 10 years have passed. 10 years wasted.
You are wise to recognize you need to do something now!
Don’t get to 64/72 and regret your choices.
I think this community will be supportive and help with MY efforts to not drink.
I am still learning the ropes so can’t really tell you how to use the program , but others will.
I can tell you this- you aren’t who you are when you drink and you can be whoever you want to be.
We’re here for you!
Welcome!! The forum can be a very helpful place of support and information. It certainly has been for me over the years. I was in my late 50s when I found the forum and had been drinking for 40+ years and man was I sick of that merry go round of drink, guilt, shame. I kept promising myself that I would stop and somehow I couldn’t. I was literally ready to die to end the endless cycle I was stuck in. There really is a lot more to life than drinking ourselves into a blackout. Can you get outside? Take a walk? It is a start. Reading here a lot was helpful to me, or other ‘quit lit’ books on what other people have done to gain sobriety and change their life. You will find a lot of suggestions here if you look around. Here is one that helps me…Taking life one day at a time helps a lot. Sometimes just taking it one hour or one minute at a time is what we need.
Also, I wanted you to know that posting on the main forum while using/drinking is against the forum rules as it may trigger other members. We have a special category called Seeking Help. It is opt in and posts often get moved there if someone is drinking. You can post more freely about a variety of topics there. I will include the link below.
Glad you are here. I hope you find it as helpful as I have.
Make today a new day and decide no matter what today brings don’t pick up that first drink. Find something else to do even if that is going to bed and getting some rest. Your body sure could use it after daily drinking.
Welcome. I hated the term alcoholic too. I just took it a bit too far sometimes. Like a frog in slowly heated up water, my actions got worse, but I could make excuses. People make jokes about drinking a couple of glasses of wine after the kids go to bed. Why not a bottle? Why not two? People have drinks at lunch. Why shouldn’t I drink before picking up the kids (not driving FYI). It just got worse. At the end, alcoholic was the only label that fit me, even if I wasn’t having the shakes in the morning (yet?). But you don’t need to have a label. Abusing alcohol in any way at any level is enough reason to get it out of your life. There are plenty of resources here. Resources for our recovery
Yep, I get the shakes sometimes as well with extreme anxiety and overthinking… that’s kind of when I realised I had more of a problem. Thank you for your support.
I was in an abusive marriage and when I got out of it, I fought through courts for 2 years to get sole custody of my children. I gradually started drinking more and more because he was still abusive to me and them. Now I have sole custody and another child I really need to start recovering.
Hey…coming here is a great start…you might wanna try reading in “The Checking in Daily Thread”…You don’t have to write anything, or give any hearts.
Just checking in for yourself is a great step…creating accountability is a positive measurable step…just the act of clicking someone else’s story can be Sooooooo helpful.
Welcome to the community! This is a wonderful place to connect with others who understand the addiction cycle and struggle.
It really is a vicious cycle with relapses and wanting to get sober. It great to have a plan for when the urges hit (good to find ways to keep yourself busy). Have a support system in place. It’s important to know that you are not alone. Meetings, recovery groups and this place are great sources for support.
I also changed up my routines and social circles while I gained strength in my sober legs. If possible, remove all alcohol from the home to avoid temptation.
Take your time to read around and join in when you get comfortable.
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