Hi there , I consider this my first time really trying to get sober, I’ve never tried to get help before. I’m a very successful “closet” drinker most people don’t know how much I drink because I can handle my liquor and I don’t go out drinking ever. I buy bottles and carry it around with me. For the last few years I don’t think I’ve been sober for more than a couple hours. I don’t like the person I’ve become, I lie to everyone and I’ve closed myself off from the outside world. I’m scared where my habits will take me and who I will hurt along the way. I hope this is the first step to turning my life around.
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Welcome.
You are in the right place. I have found that actively working my program, (AA for me but there are many other options) reading an participating here have helped me get and stay sober. 
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Welcome Sam.
I never really tried with support before either. Until now. This app has been my main vehicle for support. I’m active here. I know I’m powerless over alcohol. And I got a killer gratitude game working for me.
Welcome to this great sober community.
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Hi,
Welcome 
I too have never been to a support group.
Doing this on my own with the exception of support from my family and my SO.
My SO family has no idea I have a problem with drinking so I understand when you say you are a closeted drinker. I was able to manage looking normal to them. Now I just get to really be me without the lies. That right there will make you feel amazing besides the fact that you will start to love mornings. I’m pretty new to sobriety so feel free to message me whenever. This app is a great place to come for support. It’s done wonders for so many here.
One day at a time
ODAAT 
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Hi… I enjoy reading the posts and getting inspiration and words of advice from people here. I am also new here. Welcome
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Be brutally honest with yourself. Take it one day at a time. Do not go down the self pity/shame path. The past cannot be changed. Accept and own it. You can’t have a better tomorrow if you don’t take care of today.
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Hi 
Welcome to the group. As others have said, you have come to the right place. I’m fairly new myself and have never sought out help before. I find other peoples stories inspiring and encouraging. They remind me when things are tough that there is another way to live and be happy. You’ve taken a first brave step to changing your life. Congratulations:)
Others have advised me to use the resources available here. Here is a list of resources that someone posted to me. I hope they will be of use to you you can choose whatever is appropriate for you 
A link to a variety of resources
Original post by @SassyRocks.
This article contains links to many different types of communities and resources, it is a very helpful resource:
(AA Alternatives: 25 Sober Communities Beyond Alcoholics Anonymous )
Her work changed my life and helped push my journey forward…
Hip Sobriety/Tempest are full of resources and information…
Stories from women changing and healing their lives…
Holistic therapies
Physical activity (walking is a great place to start)
Vitamin therapy
Yoga
Meditation (try guided to begin and/or guided sleep meditations)
Mindfulness (suggested 1st reading: you are here by Thich Nhat Hanh)
Acupuncture/acupressure
Reiki
Breathwork
Nutritional therapy
Essential oils
Sounds therapy (sound baths)
Somatic therapy
Talk therapy
Crystal healing therapy
Creating nurturing rituals (warm baths)
Keeping a list of why you no longer drink, and reading it often
Podcasts
This Naked Mind
Live Awake
HOME
High Sobriety
The Ultimate List of Recovery Podcasts 2022
A good list of female recovery podcasts… 21 Women-Led Recovery Podcasts to Listen to When You Need Hope
Medications
Acamprosate / Campral
Naltrexone / Revia / Vivitrol
Disulfiram / Antabuse
Topiramate / Topimax
Ondansetron / Zofran
Books / Memoirs
#1 pick: Quit Like A Woman: The Radical Choice to Not Drink in a Culture Obsessed With Alcohol by Holly Whitaker
#2 pick: This Naked Mind by Annie Grace
Others, in no particular order…
We Are The Luckiest by Laura McKowen
The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober by Catherine Gray
A Girl Walks out of a Bar by Lisa Smith
The Recovering by Leslie Jamison
Blackout: Remembering the things I drank to forget by Sarah Hepola
Last Call by Nancy Carr
Parched by Heather King
Drinking, A Love Story
Unwasted, My Lush Sobriety
Blackout, Remembering the things I drank to forget
Hopeful Healing by Mackenzie Phillips
Saturation by Jennifer Place
A Happier Hour by Rebecca Weller
High on Arrival by Mackenzie Phillips
Under the Influence by Joyce Maynard
On Writing by Stephen King
Long Time Gone by David Crosby
Drink: The Intimate Relationship between Women and Alcohol
Dry by Augusten Burroughs
A Drinking Life by Pete Hamill
Many Roads, One Journey: Moving Beyond the 12 Steps by Charlotte Davis Kasl
you are here by Thich Nhat Hahn
The Easy Way to Stop Drinking by Allen Carr
The Body Is Not an Apology: The Power of Radical Self-Love by Sonya Renee Taylor
The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk
Extensive list of quit lit / recovery / memoirs I have read
Support Groups / Community
Of course, my #1 choice for community is Talking Sober, right here. 
Holistic approach/Seek Healing
(Https://www.seekhealing.org )
7cups (listeners for emotional support)
https://www.7cups.com/
The Alcohol Experiment (30 day free challenge from Annie Grace, This Naked Mind)
Women for Sobriety WFS
Refuge Recovery (A Buddhist inspired path to recovery)
Recovery Dharma (Another Buddhist inspired path to recovery)
SMART Recovery SMART
Secular Organizations for Sobriety SOS
AA/12 Step AA
Narcotics Anonymous
http://m.na.org/
Behaviour-focused recovery groups
Self-Abuse Finally Ends (S.A.F.E. Alternatives) (treatment for self-harm behaviour) (also includes a list of useful hotlines / text lines)
www.selfinjury.com
Sexaholics Anonymous
www.sa.org
Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous
www.slaafws.org
Gamblers Anonymous
www.gamblersanonymous.org
Emotions Anonymous (for those with a desire to improve emotional wellbeing)
https://emotionsanonymous.org/ - USA
https://www.emotionsanonymous.org.uk/ - UK
Groups for partners and family of people in recovery
Sober Families (Community Reinforcement and Family Training approach to help get loved ones into treatment) (https://soberfamilies.com/)
Al-Anon / Alateen (family & friends of people in recovery from alcohol)
Al-Anon Family Groups
Nar-Anon (family & friends of people in recovery from narcotics)
Nar-Anon Family Groups
Gam-Anon (for family and friends of people with a gambling addiction)
www.gam-anon.org
S-Anon (family & friends of people in recovery from sex addiction)
www.sanon.org
Locating treatment programs
Find specific services, mental health and substance use disorder treatment
(Https://findtreatment.gov/ )
Atlas Treatment locator
(Https://treatmentatlas.org)
Hotlines & text lines
Crisis Text Line is the free, 24/7, confidential text message service for people in crisis. Text HOME to 741741 in the United States.
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
In USA, text 741 741
or call 1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255)
Hotlines & text lines for USA & International, for many different crises (grief, self-harm, suicide, abuse, assault, and many others)
www.mentalhealth.gov/get-help/immediate-help
Self-Abuse Finally Ends (S.A.F.E. Alternatives) (treatment for self-harm behaviour) (also includes a list of useful hotlines / text lines)
www.selfinjury.com
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Thank you so much this is amazing!
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I’m right there with you. So far my sober time is me sleeping off the alcohol and that’s it. I really wish you the absolute best of luck and I just hope you know your not alone in any of this. 
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We got this!
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