New information about my sobriety

Hi everyone. This is my first time posting.

In the beginning of 2021 i went to rehab for alcohol. The previous 6 months were a mess, and I was trying to kill myself with booze.
Since rehab i have been 3 and a half years sober.
I never understood how my life spiralled down so quickly after years of admittedly heavy drinking. Well last week, after dealing with a medical issue i got an MRI on my neck and we found severe compression between c6 amd c7. This was from an injury i had at work in april of 2020.

I am finally able to get treatment for my neck, the pain in my back that i didnt even know was there is now gone, a brain fog that i have had for the last 4 odd years is gone and i feel like a brand new person. I couldnt be happier.

Now i am sitting here thinking about how life isnt fair. Its not fair that i got injured during a pandemic and was ignored by my job, my loved ones, and the overworked medical staff at the time. Its not fair that i have missed out on bachelor parties, birthdays, new years, and everything else that involved alcohol.

The truth is I dont miss the drinking itself, but i cant help but feel that i had something taken from me that shouldnt have. My brother has his bachelor party in Vegas at the end of the month and i have already declined. Because for the first time in almost 4 years, im worried that im going to drink. We live on opposite sides of the country, so this is a once in a long time kind of trip with just my brothers.
I know im doing the right thing. I like sobriety. Maybe my issue is that i got great, life changing, medical news but i feel bad.
There arent any easy answers in life. Thank you for reading.

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That sucks - it feels like four years of your life have been stolen from you.

It is true that life isn’t fair. It’s also true that it is unfair for everyone (the grass always seems greener on the other side of the fence, but the same thing is true for other people). The richness and fulfillment of life is on working with the unfairness in a constructive way. For me, that has been where all the fulfillment has come to me. Life is a mess. But it’s a mess we live together, and the stories of how we handled that mess are the most treasured memories I have.

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Welcome Sean! Congrats on 3.5 years!

You’re right, there are no easy answers to life, but at least you’re making the right decision by not putting your sobriety at risk.

I had to ask myself what is the definition of life isn’t fair. I honestly couldn’t answer it because it’s different for everyone. Instead, I changed my mindset and found gratitude.

Wishing you the best on your journey.

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