Welcome! 300 days sober from alcohol over here and I attribute a lot of that success to the community I’ve found on this site. There is something for everyone just use the magnifying glass in the top right corner to search anything you like. There is a fairly active atheist thread.
What this place does best though is offer support when you are struggling. Everyone here is an addict and though drugs of choice vary everyone here has had their own day 1s. If you feel like your sobriety is slipping or you are tempted and can’t talk yourself out of it hop on here and tell someone. There are people from all over the world so someone is always up.
Again welcome. I wish you success.
Thanks much for the warm welcome! I do believe that this is going to become a great resource for me. Much more convenient, and after reading through several threads today, I believe somewhat more meaningful than meetings in my humble opinion. I live in a small town and the meetings I attended here consisted mostly of older gentleman complaining about not drinking anymore or younger court ordered DUI victims just putting in their mandatory time.
I appreciate the heads up on the aethiest thread. Not being weird or trying to make a social point here, just have a very difficult time being motivated by, or to make life decisions based on something I’ve never been able to believe in or buy into.
Usually I can make it the better part of a month being a dry drunk, but I always have derailed usually in the form of a horrific week long shitshow of a train wreck bender.
Congratulations on your 300!! Rock on brother. Inspirational!
I truly get the concept of one day at a time, but my ultimate goal is to move back into that peaceful suburb of not having it be a major day to day or monthly issue. I do know for a fact even right now that I can no longer drink in my life. There is just no moderation left in me.
Again, thank you for the welcome, and thank you for listening.
Clinging on to that personal realization for dear life atm. Know first hand the next week will be fairly easy for me. Still feel crappy enough getting physically banged up and having my ex pick me up from the ER on a Sunday night. Not a problem for a few days…
More than anything I absolutely need to keep that thought or realization front and center of me the next time, regardless of consequences, I just want to get numb and tune out the whole world for a day.
Sober heads, sober pillows? That’s good stuff… Thanks!
Hey Luke, welcome! I truly hope you can beat the urges and temptations that you’ll feel, especially at the start. It’s worth it.
There’s so much help out there, even on YouTube if you look up “sobriety” or anything about quitting.
They do have zoom meetings here but you can also do them outside of your town if you want. It’s worth a try, right?
You need to download the zoom app.
Im old like you, so don’t wait too long!
You can keep your camera and microphone off and just listen on zoom also.
Thank you for the welcome!
That is a GREAT suggestion. Unfortunately most of my friends are all still drinkers. Not All Fall down drunks like me, but still that sounds like it would be a super good alternative. Thank you!
Funny thing about getting sober; your real friends will be happy for you and not try to ruin your efforts. Some may not want you to stop.
It all has a way of figuring itself out.
Be selfish about doing what’s best for you,
And like I mentioned, you can do the zoom meetings anywhere, not in your town.
I’m honestly pretty fortunate in that respect. I have been enough of a shitshow that even my friends that are still heavy drinkers are encouraging me to do this.
Never even considered the whole zoom thing. It does sound like a really great idea.
Don’t at all mind speaking in front of a group and certainly no shame left to be made in my small town by me. Lol. Just have nothing in common with the attendees at the meetings I’ve been to locally. Just hasn’t spoken to me?
Welcome and congratulations on 1.5 days sober. This community is very supportive. It’s crucial for me. There are non-faith based support groups. S.M.A.R.T. is one I know of. Self management and recovery training.
I went thru a program at 16. I was using after I left that outpatient facility. Aa/na is where i met some good using friends. I learned what not to do lets say, lol.
Fast-forward to a few years back when I was bombing hills in front of my house on a walmart deathtrap (peralta with sloppy trucks) eating concrete and drinking beers until I fell down and broke my right leg in two places (spiral fractured fibula, tibia fractcture) I found myself waking up in the ER waiting for surgery. Waking with a titanium rod jammed into my leg like a spike and pinned in for structural reinforcement, not even then did I think I was a drunk. Healed up getting drunk and continued until I chased my demons to the bottom of a whiskey bottle night after night trying to find answers to all of lifes bad hands and misdealings… until I realized, its me. Im my problem. Drinking will blind you to just that fact.
I say all that to say this, welcome to the community, it works for me.
Last summer I walked/stumbled through a flower bed landscaping thing in my back yard and ate shit in a HUGE way. No recollection whatsoever. Woke up at the crack of noon the next day with a skinned up nose, it bruise the size of a grapefruit on my hip, and a hand that was twice it’s normal size and on fire. Fractured one finger and totally broke two on my left hand… only way I figured out what happened was because I left a really nice snow angel in the middle of my flower bed. Good times… Should have been my hint, but no. Just wound up drinking a whole lot more for a month because of some pretty serious pain in that hand. It was a nice excuse at the time?
Ironically, this is kind of how I chose my screen name. Just plain old Luke was already taken. Wild Turkey 101 has always been my go-to. So rather than go with Luke 2 I figured Luke101 would be kind of a fitting reminder every time I looked at it.
Great question! Thank you! That one really has me thinking outside of my personal box. I’ll have to get back to you tomorrow. That really is going to be my thought of the day… Definitely deeper than face value, not as simple of a question as it would sound at first glance.
Kind of briefly skimmed over the program when I was looking for online resources right before I joined this community. Will definitely revisit and give it a serious look.
Thanks for the reference and kind wishes. I appreciate.
Hey @DeadMoonRising! How did day four go for you? Really hope you made it
Over the dts, woke up feeling pretty good, so of course the first thing I really wanted to do was go to the bar, be social and just have “a couple”.
Instead I thought about what a butthole drinking turns me into for a bit, did something healthy, and then stayed busy for the next couple hours doing something productive. Not easy but made it through the day and I’m pretty happy about that.
3am and have the just quit drinking insomnia thing going on.
Just wanted to thank you for the welcome and words of encouragement yesterday. I really appreciate!
I must say; I’m absolutely blown away by the kindness and unconditional support given by this community. First day here has been wonderful for me! Didn’t expect so much.
Have tried to quit drinking several times the last couple years several different ways without success. Think I stumbled across something really good. This is most definitely going to be a valuable resource for me.
so don’t wait too long!
I’m still a 20y/o just trapped in a 50y/o’s body…
