Where did they go? Understood they probably weren’t my real friends all things considered but it’s a lonely world removing yourself from a negative situation and trying to do better things for yourself.
You and me both. But in a way, it’s kind of like starting life all over again, and just like in the beginning will make more friends
I’ve met my best friends in AA. It’s a good safe place to be when you want to not drink.
I feel that way too. It’s just odd as an adult, can’t just go to a park, lol
It’s just lonely, work, home, work, home, repeat
It may take a while, but you do start to build a real friendship portfolio.
Most of my “friends” in the past were really just drinking buddies, and the acquaintances that didn’t drink, well, they became friends recently.
We tend to gravitate towards those we have things in common with, and when drinking is no longer in common, new friendships open up.
Be patient, it’ll happen.
Sometimes work, home, work, home are the best days i have. Take sometime getting comfortable being alone. When you start to love yourself and figure out what your true priorities in life are, true friends will come around.
Also, being able to be alone and be happy, comfortable with who you are, makes it so much easier to cope in situations or places where you used to drink in order to “fit in”.
I used to go out and drink, then come home and drink alone. Or just come home after work, drink alone. There are a lot of hours in a sober persons day
I would hide/ignore/push away my friends who didn’t as much as I did. You’re right, we will find people who want to do what we want to do, I wanted to drink… a lot. I do think that for the actual first time, I really do want to not drink instead of being reactive to something really bad happening.
You will find the right people i have found i can go places and not drink but still ne ok. Stay strong
Perhaps the meditation for today from the book 24 Hours a Day will help you out. Once if the truths of a successful sobriety is an active connection to that sense of something much bigger than ourselves. The connection is often described in religious language, but all descriptions are fundamentally the same - there is an energy from which all life springs, and to which we all belong.
Meditation for the Day
You were meant to be at home and comfortable in the world. Yet some people live a life of quiet desperation. This is the opposite of being at home and at peace in the world. Let your peace of mind be evident to those around you. Let others see that you are comfortable, and seeing it, know that it springs from your trust in a Higher Power. The dull, hard way of resignation is not God’s way. Faith takes the sting out of the winds of adversity and brings peace even in the midst of struggle.
Prayer for the Day
I pray that I may be more comfortable in my way of living. I pray that I may feel more at home and at peace within myself.
Thank you for this. Great words to start my day 7 alcohol free.
I am a pool player and I love NFL, most places that have tables and play sports… it’s a booze fest. I was out briefly over weekend playing pool, watched morning games of NFL and then I had to leave as people started getting more into the drinks. In time, I’m confident I can get to a place where being around people drinking won’t bother me, but I’m not quite there yet.
Your pool game will be much better sober . TBH, sports bars have lost most, if not all of their allure to me. People drinking don’t make me crave no more, they just bore me to death. Or irritate me. Nothing positive anyway. We do need a new sober social circle.
I have noticed a lot of pool players who play in league don’t drink so that makes me hopeful in that aspect.
It takes time to find new activities to do but you’ll find some true friends out living the sober life trust me.