Hi everybody. I’m trying, again, and this is my second day clean w/o alcohol, hope I can continue like this since alcohol gives me so many problems…
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“Hope” is not a strategy. Do you have a strategy for not drinking?
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What are you going to do different this time?
Strategy? Don’t think so. It’s more like a decision at this point and see what happened in the last idk 10 years.
Will start working out, try to stay focused and remember those bad experiences all the time so it can keep me safe, happy
Is that different from what you’ve done before?
Yep. This time is not like I’m running away and try to be at home, wanna do smt different now. For me first, then for my loved ones
There’s an old saying: “Fail to plan. Plan to fail”
Ask anyone with some real days under their belt, and they will tell you that you need a strategy. You need a plan, like “I will attend a meeting every day this week. I will work out every night when I usually drink. I will decline any social invitations until I have 30 days of sobriety. I will read this forum for a minimum of one hour, daily. If I do these things and still cannot stay sober, I will get a sponsor…”
Specific goals and objectives to aim at. If you aim at nothing, you will hit it every time.
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Thanks Stevie!!!
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Get better at getting better, each and every day. Never forget that the battle really comes down to one drink, the first drink. You win that fight, and you don’t have to worry about a 2nd ir 3rd or 12th.
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You’re right. Will try to use the app as much as I can and see people’s posts. Have to learn how to say ok 2 or 3 glasses and that’s enough, otherwise I end up drinking everything and I will fail again. If I can’t learn that, I don’t wanna drink anymore, it’s not like I’m gonna die because I can’t drink anymore, alcohol is not for everybody
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I am positive that it’s not for me. Not one drink. Never, ever again.
Are you prepared for the possibility that you may never be able to say “Ok 2 or 3” and stop there? I know I tried that. Didn’t work. 100% abstinence is the only guaranty of success, at least for me.
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If you could moderate your drinking you would have already. Wanting to change is a lot different than actually taking steps to change.
I want a million dollars, but unless I formulate a plan and then execute that plan to a T, I will not have a million dollars.
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I gotta do what I gotta do. Whatever it takes
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You either have a problem with alcohol or you don’t. People who don’t have a problem with alcohol don’t have to try and “moderate” their drinking to two or three. They just drink and stop when they want. If it’s all or nothing then you’ve got a problem.
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Hope, while it gives us good feelings for the future, it leaves the door open for that little voice that pulls us back into the drink…i hoped for years to be sober. This time is different. I am defiant to the drink. I will be sober…Be defiant to the drink.
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Sometimes people need to go out and do a little more research. I know I did. Guess how that went? Not one, but two more trips to rehab because I thought it would be okay to have a couple beers on the boat.
Wish I figured that out years ago. Although I probably didn’t want to. Easier to just pretend I need to develop will power to stop drinking than admit I’m an alcoholic.
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I knew and readily admitted to being an alcoholic and still thought, oh I can just have a few. Insanity. I had zero evidence that it would turn out anyway but bad and drank anyway. I had a crack stem in my mouth by that night. My progression wastes no time.
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Only way to stop is dont buy alcohol and dont drink it even if its for free. Not much to it really, follow those rules and problem solved
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