Not always randows and sunshine

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I’m starting to be aware that when I’m grumpy I crave and also have relapsed in the past out of being stressed or upset

It’s something I’m going to think about these next few days so I can get it in my head that I don’t need to relaps out of myself upset

Earlier I was a bit grumpy
I was at a friend’s house with my wife and I wanted to leave and everyone kept saying no stay. I kept my cool but craved the bar. I kept seeing myself at that barstool in my mind.
It was just a quick thought and I didn’t feed into it.

I also need to learn that I can let my wife chill with her friends without me. I could have gotten up and came home by myself, but on the other hand it was late so I know I didn’t want her walking alone, but like, if it was daytime that is a option to give her the social time she needs while I’m giving her some time.
So it was late so I knew I couldn’t leave her alone to walk back. It wasn’t far but it’s a sketchy world.

So we are home now and I’m going to talk to her about these things in a few minutes.

Take care everyone

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I’ve also learned that i don’t need to be tied to my spouse. Actuality, I’ve learned to enjoy the alone time, especially if he’s going out for a few drinks.

Hope your discussion with your wife went well and have a great day tomorrow!

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I talked to my wife

I got a good woman by my side

She was a bit confused at first but we talked and made sence of the issues and she was cool. :slight_smile: I’m very fortunate

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I love this! While reading I kept thinking you should talk to your wife and get her input on this. And you did! That’s brilliant.

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It feels like I’m your mirror image. When i do get upset i tell my wife. She doesn’t get it quite often but at least i get it off of my chest

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Yes it did help alot getting it off my chest.

She was a bit confused but it was a good talk. We made sence of it but there’s still work we have to do. I need to learn how to trust her and hounestly be less co dependent. I trust her and she trusts me but love is scary I guess. Something I need to work on.

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:+1: . I would never considered myself codependent but now you have mentioned it, I’ll take a look at it

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