So I left my sisterās earlier than planned, I was going to leave in the evening to avoid the Christmas traffic and to avoid this storm warning we have in the UK.
But by midday she just decided to say that I was making her uncomfortable in her home, so I decided to just leave at that point. Iām not really sure that I did anything to deserve such a harsh comment, but itās her house.
I almost didnāt go this year because of feeling unwelcome on previous comments, just small things like being asked not to plug my phone in because it uses electricity, etc! Theyāll never be the ones to get their pets looked after and do the dreaded Christmas driving to come to mine, so I either go there or spend Christmas alone.
Now Iāve arrived home and my neighbour has left a bottle of wine on my kitchen counter. Iād given it to her as a gift for feeding my cat. Itās knocked me a bit.
Just waiting to hear if she left it by accident, then I should probably dump it out.
Massive hugs. I can relate to Christmas not going so well.
Please pour the alcohol away. Itāll be the last thing you want to do right now, but the one good thing that can come out of today is staying sober and waking up with a clear head tomorrow. There are lots of things we canāt control, but you can control this.
Its true, how they treat you today is a reflection on them not you, im glad you came here to talk to us about it and that youve dumped the booze, we are here for you xx
Awww Badger, Iām so sorry to hear what happened to you. I have a younger brother myself and I really canāt understand how your sister could treat you that bad.
Sending a big virtual hug.
Glad youāre here and talked about it and good you dumped th wine.
Hope you donāt feel alone. Weāre with you
Congrats on dumping the wine, Badger. Right choice!
Phones use a pitiful amount of energy, what a spiteful comment. Sorry man. Itās that old phrase āyou canāt choose your family, but you can at least choose your friendsā
Well letās be glad that darn holiday is over and maybe we decide to do something different next year. Your sisterās behavior is rude and disrespectful and no one needs that.
My hope is that you discarded the bottle of wine and either went to a meeting or got in touch with an actually supportive person in your life. We are all here and we are supportive of your recovery work.
If you canāt get to a meeting or a supportive person, can you take good care of yourself? Can you get decent food, take a warm bath, and try to relax into some sleep?
We do this work one day at a time, and this day should be winding down soon. By tomorrow this stupid day will be behind you and you have a new one to run for yourself.
Oh @Badger Iām sorry, your sisterās words and behaviour sound harsh and hurtful. Iām glad you left, best decicision when you donāt feel welcome anymore.
I know itās not like in real life but you are very welcome here and Iām happy to read that you got home safe, your cat waited for you, you got rid of the bottle (maybe try fresh fruit next time as present/giveaway, my catsitter likes it very much).
Sending you hugs and comforting vibes
So glad you dumped it!
Maybe the neighbour doesnāt drink (anymore), maybe they thought the favor was too small to necessitate a gift. Donāt overthink it.
Always being the one to go there, and those electricity comments (urgh, sounds like my husband), yeah, I understand your feeling. But those things are about your sister and her small heart, not you.
Family members arenāt always the best people for us. It is ok to limit your time with them. And do things that make your cup fuller.
Sending you much love and peace
Itās knocked me a bit.
