Sorry if it’s a dumb question but I’m confused.
Yesterday I had dinner with one of my colleagues.
We ate pizza and he opened a bottle of wine. He ask me if I wanted some wine (we used to drink a lot together) and I say yes.
I knew I can control it but I said yes, just for tasting that precious wine ( 40 € of a bottle).
I drank one glass. Then stop. Even after he opened other bottles of beer.
Then this morning I asked myself “should I restart the sobriety timer?”
That’s a question you have to answer for yourself. For me I might get it in my head I’m able to control this now so I can drink … I am planning on never having another drink in my life.
I haven’t drank again yet, but that would be my thought. That it would spiral for me because I would have this delusion of control. ALSO, I’ve been on here since Dec. and I’ve seen a lot of people posting on here saying, I just had one or two, it’s not a relapse. Fine, but then they post a few weeks or month later saying it’s out of control again. Boom!
Ultimately it’s up to you and whatever you decide is best for your sobriety!
Yep, I was just thinking about that as well, how people come back saying they went down the rabbithole again. 
And since I’ve been there myself… I know how quickly the old drinking habits come back, even if after that one particular beer/glass of wine you didn’t want more and felt in control. I would reset personally but it’s up to you and your goals really.
For me the decision to press reset is more about the reasons why I drank rather than the amount. You made a conscious choice to accept that drink. Did you do it because you were afraid of how your friend would react to you not drinking? Did you do it because you thought you were “cured” of your addiction? Did you do it because you had a rough day and “Fuck it, I need a drink”? Once you figure out why you had the one drink then you can better decide if it was a relapse or not.
Another thing…now that you’ve had 1 drink and were able to keep it to just 1 do you have this feeling like you can do it again and again? I know I did that and it turned into me have 1 drink everyday for about a week. I definitely knew that I needed to hit reset again.
That is exactly what I’ve done…several times!!
Because I didn’t want to disappoint my friend. Because I wanted some relief to my muscles pain.
Because I wanted to taste something different from watee (I don’t drink juice, coca or sugar drink)
I think your initial question was quite interesting @Enrico81, although it’s a scenario most of us on the forum wouldn’t be able to understand fully.
You had a glass of wine because you ‘can control it’.
We can’t.
Most of us on the forum are alcoholics.
If you can control it you’re luckily not an alcoholic!
Your last comments/reasons for having a drink are also those of a non-alcoholic (I didn’t realise wine gave muscle relief).
I’m just not entirely sure why you need to use the counter?
when i got out of my outpatient program the first time, the first thing i did was go to the gas station and buy myself a 6 pack of my favorite craft beer. i went home and had just one can and let the other 5 sit there for about 2 months. Because i showed those people, telling me i cant ever drink again… of course i can have 1 beer every couple months. inevitably, that came to an end and i was back in detox the next month. Im just giving you my story so you can base your decision on resetting or not on other people experiences.
This makes me think how important it is for me to establish what is my bottom line is before I face this question. I cannot go just by my feelings. My boundaries cannot be subjective. If I were alcoholic and one glass of wine was not crossing the line, I would need to determine in advance and in writing, how many glasses in a certain time frame would constitute loss of sobriety.
For me, this kind of binary thinking is why I"m really wary of the term “alcoholic”, and in fact don’t use it. You can definitely have a problem with alcohol, even if you can sometimes stop at one. The term “problem drinking” seems to me much more helpful, because it leaves open the nature of the problem. I used to tell myself constantly that I was fine, because I often drank “only” one or two glasses of wine some evenings. It just doesn’t follow. You need to look at your drinking habits not over one night, but across months or a year, and be really honest about it. It’s perfectly possible to abuse alcohol, and for it to be a problem for your health and well-being and relationships, even if you sometimes stop at one.