Well as if all the shit ive been through this year hasnt been enough my ex-husband texted me on Sunday to let me know that my daughter, my only child, graduated from radiology school AND read the commencement speech as well and i wasnt invited. I really dont know how to process this. I mean this is something i cant get back. Had they invited me i would’ve just sat away from my family and not gone to her reception. But i wasnt even told when she was graduating. I would never do that to anyone! Now im so scared that if her boyfriend proposes i wont be invited to the wedding. I guess im looking for some advice on how to get through this because ive been crying for the last 3 days and isolated bad. I have no cravings for alcohol but my depression is out of controll again and yall know what happened the last time i was this low…
I’m sorry to hear that. Are in speaking terms with your daughter?
I called her on her birthday in April and we talked for 30 min. It was the first time she answere in 2 years so i thought things were getting better but i guess not 
I am sorry to hear this. It is hard when our children pull away and aren’t in a place where they want/need us in their lives. Sometimes it is necessary for them so they can get healthy and heal. As hard as it is as a parent, what we want most is for our children to be healthy and happy and sometimes that means distance from us for awhile. Obviously this sucks and is painful as a parent. In my experience I have found that what is healthiest for me is to build a life I love and am proud of, one that includes activities I enjoy and healing practices. I can wish I was more a part of my daughter’s life all I want, but until she is open to that, I keep my focus where it needs to be, on myself and my healing journey. And I feel you, some years are so hard. Can you get out and take some walks in nature? Take a restorative yoga class? Meet a friend for coffee? Take a bike ride? Little things like that help me lift myself up when I am down. Sending hugs across the miles. 
Sassy said it.
30 minutes on the phone was probably a big step for her after years of silence. Don’t lose hope. Send her a graduation card maybe?