Hey all!! Hope everyone is having a good night so far! I am going onto 14 days sober from alcohol. I believe I have made one of the most important decisions of my life taking this road and I’m happy about it! I wanna talk about something though, some of you might relate & some of you might not. I guess I just need to vent and this platform as helped me a lot with coping with all my issues and on top of staying sober.
So I’ve noticed not a lot of things trigger me and especially with sobriety I don’t have a whole lot of triggers that make me wanna drink, I’ve been dealing with a separation along with “custody” stuff with my baby’s mother. For some reason any time I think of our situation and and everything that’s going on in my world, our baby’s world, and her world. It’s alot of stuff to keep in mentally and at the end of it all I just wanna relax and have a drink (I’m not going to) but I’ve noticed anything thought that is associated with my baby’s mother and this situation drives my mind to alcohol. I think it’s because it’s such a stressful process and she doesn’t care that I’m sober I don’t even think she knows that I am tbh and that bothers me because I want people closest to me to know I’m doing better but when they don’t seem to care it just kinda drags me down a bit. I even asked her today if this is something we really wanna go through with (I wish things were different and worked out) but she didn’t seem to care about anything, she didn’t seem to care that these are important moments for our baby he needs family bonding time and I just don’t want this to effect him negatively in the future. I grew up without a dad and know how it feels so the fact that she doesn’t wanna try for our own son hurts me. Okay rant over!!
Again some might relate and some might not but this is a big trigger for me. I’ve been going through my days ease free when it comes to cravings and kicking them but anytime I think about this situation I do start to get cravings and I start to feel stressed. I hope this feeling passes soon. I’m excited about being sober for this long and I know my family and friends are excited for me I just wish the person I spent the last 5 years with cared too.
I hope everyone has a goodnight thanks for hearing me out venting helps.
hey comrade, thanks for being so transparent here and congratulations on 2 weeks sober. i also have a baby son, and am estranged from his father - i’m sure our situations are wildly different but we definitely share some commonalities. for one, thinking about the rift between me and Elijah’s dad, has been driving me to drink up until 3 weeks ago (3 weeks AF now). i’ll tell you one thing - and you already know this - drinking won’t help us relax, it will only drain our energy, distort our clarity of mind, and smother our spirit. all of which we need deeply to be a healthy and effective parent and human in general. that’s what we know, and we have to work with that. i’m proud of you bro for staying sober thru this hard time. proud of me too, cuz yes it’s definitely tough. and this particular situation is just one of many, many triggers life throws at us.
life doesn’t always give us what we want or expect, sometimes it hands us a heavy blow, and so many things are out of our control. in sobriety we are learning about the grace of acceptance, the wisdom of vision and choice and the strength of action. we are growing so much through this and our sons will have incredible character and heart because of the courageous changes we are making in our lives today.
Congrats on your 2 weeks of sobriety Gabe! You are absolutely crushing it
Totally understandable to find conversations and encounters with your boy’s mom to be difficult. Sometimes when people are not doing well themselves it is hard for them to see or acknowledge the good that others are doing.
I’m sorry that you are in this situation but I do have to say that you are handling it really well.
You are doing amazingly well and i’m grateful that you have your family supporting you!
You can come here and rant whenever - i do hope writing it out helps deal with the emotions. We are here for you and excited to see you doing so well
Hey I really needed this! Thank you so much! I’m staying strong:muscle:t4: you know what’s even crazier my sons name is Alijah ha so I felt this in a whole other level thank you for your kind words
Thank you jazzy you rule!!! Writing this type of stuff down does help a lot! Especially when I feel like I have no one to talk to in that moment. I appreciate you for having my back I have yours!!
