Hi so i have not had a drink in 20 days yes starting again. My partner drinks not alot in his mind, he bought 3 tall cans of beer yesterday , 1 case of beer and a bottle of wine for the weekend. that i can deal with it, its when i say im struggling a bit with stress i need like a calming drink or something.. do you know what he keeps telling me ? You know sex helps with that ? soo may times he like sex helps with that . i cant take it anymore. Sex has nothing to do with anything.
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My husband does the same! Haha dont worry any problems i have he think will be solved by sex! I think its just a way he thinks to get me out of my head and to enjoy something lol i try to focus on my values and goals and take a breath and any practical help i need from him i ask cause i know to help me ground, hes guna offer sex or be silly lol is there anything youv found to do during tense times that does unwind you for yourself? Im trying to learn new things to keep my brain active because i cant just keep going round and doing chores and do what needs to be done! Congratulations on your 20 days! 
x
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Hey @ladybug1974 welcome back
My partner doesn’t drink but he does push sex all the time and it drives me up a wall. I wish he didn’t. I don’t have any helpful advice but i know how you feel. I hope you can get some relief from your stress. Congrats on 20 days sober.
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Congratulations on your 20 days!! It took quite a while for my husband to be supportive in the way I needed…and quite a few conversations. The sex thing…yeah…I hear you on that. I find walks can be relaxing to calm me or hot baths. Sex, not so much.
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omg im not alone yours does that to ? i really like to sip on things , i like to have something in my hand, No its not my partners parts of his body. ( thank god he is not right beside me now lol ) i like not to surgery things natural stress reducing things too drink so I’m on search for things .
Dry begging for sex is the fastest way to turn me off of it for life. 
I’m sorry you’re dealing with that and you deserve more support from your partner.
Keep staying strong and checking in here for now. 
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