My cousin/best friend has her wedding coming up in July. I am the god damn maid of honor and someone else is bogarting the bachelorette party. This someone else is not even a bridesmaid?!? WTH!!! We had a chain of emails going and her last email basically implied she’s taking over. I asked the bride and she just laughed about it. That this person is going to help because they know more about camping (b-party will be a weekend of camping).
I’m offended, annoyed, pissed off and more importantly I want to drink right now. Camping isn’t rocket science! I don’t need help, give me a break!
I want a drink. I’m so angry. Help. Just asking for some emotional support. I hate everything right now.
Uhg that sucks. Her need to take over is not a reflection of your planning capabilities though. Don’t let her power trip ruin your sobriety. Stay strong, you don’t need to punish yourself because she’s being a bitch. Slow deep breaths. hugs
Lol Thanks @MissQuinn she is a bitch!! That made me laugh. I’m currently working so I can’t go to a meeting, I get off in about an hour. Trying to come on here a lot. Take deep breaths. Calm down, I know I’m overreacting, but this sucks.
Writing out what I’m feeling does help. @Oliverjava This place is like free therapy.
What an asshole! I’m sorry you’re going through this. She is not worth losing your sobriety over.
Is there a way to set a boundary now so she doesn’t get even more out of control?
Right? Gah! I’m going to have to figure it out. No way is this person taking over. I’ve calmed down, but I’m still upset. If this was before I stopped drinking, I would’ve left work early and gone to a bar fo sho.
I learned in AA about how we are powerless over alcohol.
One other thing that I personally figured out is yes this is true and it’s one of the few things in my life that I’m powerless over.
So, I came to the conclusion that I wasn’t going to let anyone have any power over my emotions. Even the few people close to me that triggered me to drink. It was a very liberating epiphany, and gave the power back to me.
So I guess what I’m saying is just recite the serenity prayer and accept the situation, and take care of yourself and emotions first. Because most people around you generally aren’t going to care enough about your emotions.
Wanna hear a nerdy saying that actually rings true? “Don’t put your key of happiness in someone else’s pocket” She doesn’t deserve to take up space in your head.
I can imagine what you feel. That’s sucks!
But please don’t forget the party is not for getting angry but for celebrating your cousin/best friend’s wedding.
Please wishing your cousin’s happiness.
And please take care of your cousin for long.
I lost one of my cousin who had been like a real brother recently.
I envy you can celebrate your cousin. I will not be able to celebrate him anymore.
Well, I can’t say anything about the cat fight because I’m more a dog person-
BUT- my concern for you is the camping trip! Camping is a very difficult environment to stay sober in my friend! We need to get you a plan asap! Girl! I live camping- like for real! Not like “i live for camping” i live in a canvas ‘tent’ with bonfires and company hanging out bbq-ing all the time and its tough.
You’ll need to occupy all your senses and have a firm resolve not to give into temptation.
You’ll need an exit strategy incase it gets too much with a bunch of drunk chicks.
You’ll need a reminder (I wear mantra bands) on your wrist to NOT TO DRINK!
Aw crap. I know, I know! I’m actually pretty worried about the b-party and wedding. I think the b-party will be the hardest…weddings can be a huge trigger though. Especially around my awful family. Lol, family gathering? F that, let’s drank! That WAS my motto anyway.
And a weekend with a bunch of women drinking to oblivion…it’s not until May, but I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t worried.
sigh of relief May- thats going to give you a good enough foundation to withstand some of the pressure- they say the first three months is the hardest- so by then you should be over the hump.
Just incase, we are going to build you an emergency camping tote lol
Read that book for our January book club and start visualizing yourself NOW having fun sober.
Something I do is bring a camera to capture the moments. It keeps my hands busy and hiding behind the lens helps me focus on something other than NOT drinking
I’ve been appealing to my vanity to stay sober too… just imagine how stunning you’ll will look in your dress! All sober and glowing! Maybe plan some cute camping outfits! I wanna come! Lol!
Love those! They actually do have AA related slogans, can’t think or find one off the top of my head since there are so many- but they have a day at a time, gratitude, strength, journey… so many can be tied to recovery.
I have “Alis Volat Proprias” (She flys with her own wings) and Not all who wander are lost… I plan to own 12 by the end of the year
@Elisabeth, girlfriend don’t get me all worried like that! You know you want those 30, 60, 90, and beyond chips! I believe in you and I think you have more willpower and strength than you give yourself credit for.
