So this girl i worked w was saying how she couldnt get her kids Christmas so me being me got 2 50$ gift cards an gave to her well how come today she shows up at work w brand new shoes. Like wtf i know i shouldnt b mad but just makes me think she spent on herself an not her kids. I guess cause i put it on my credit card because im a single mom too so i know how hard it is but y do i feel hussled
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It’s a good deed period. It is what it is when we give money to others, once it’s given it’s given and people do with it what they want. It reminds me a bit of me giving money to a drunk in the street -something I don’t do often btw- who says They’re hungry. He’ll buy booze from what I give him. And still be hungry. Maybe I should have gotten them something to eat. It’s sad but it’s life.
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Sorry lesson learned
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It’s a good deed, with very good intentions. What she did/does with it is out of your control.
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Welp, now you know why she doesn’t have money for her kids, if she indeed use your gift to buy new shoes.
While I would be peeved, but the fact is, once you hand over a gift, it is no longer yours and its intended use is no longer in your control. But man, what a bummer.
Hopefully they were old new shoes or maybe someone else recently gifted them to her?.. Hopefully??
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You did an awesome thing. I’m glad there are people like you in the world!
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This is the correct answer!
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It was done from the kindness in your heart = a good deed. 
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Thanks for all the replied back. I just really hate greedy people why cant we be happy w the little things? I think most people in sobriety atleast has this they know what its like to have nothing so when we do have things we feel blessed an have gratitude for it.
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Your heart was in the right place even if the other person took advantage of you…
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Its a biggie in life in general when you accept that you cant control other people only your own actions, your action here was pure of heart and for that you should be proud…you kept yourself right and did what you thought was right, what happens after that is out of your control. I think what you did was wonderful, never change that kindness you have, it is gold.
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The "goodness " is in the giving, not what she did with it. 
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You did an awesome thing. If she took advantage of you then that’s on her and she’s the one who has to live with herself.
But as an optimist, maybe someone gifted her those shoes? Or maybe she used the gift cards from you to buy new shoes because her old ones had holes in the bottom of the soles and she was getting wet feet every workday? Either way… what you did was awesome.
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