Porn addiction day 3

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I am 3 days sober this time around. This addiction almost broken down my marage. This I think has been the hardest relapse I have gone through

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Welcome Nathan! :wave:t2: I am also in recovery from porn. There’s a good number of us here; search “porn” “PMO” “masturbation” “pornography” and similar terms and you’ll find bunch of threads. Many of us have had our marriages in danger because of it; many have also caused a divorce by choosing a loveless affair with porn, over a marriage of true emotional and physical connection.

Porn is garbage. It’s a hollow, soul-sucking, life-numbing distraction that wastes time and energy in a world that is totally fake and the opposite of real intimacy.

For me, my recovery really started when I reached out to a sex addiction recovery clinic in my city. There, I learned about causes and recoveries from porn / sex addiction, and I was able to get coaching that helped me move forward, one day at a time.

There’s a good list of groups here:

Take it one day at a time. Find some threads about porn here (search the terms above) and start sharing and listening. You’ll find what you need.

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You’re not alone, friend. You’ve got this

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Thanks for your share. I’m just starting to admit that I might have a issue as well. Especially since I have my ADHD medication my libido is a bit of out control. It was never bad and I wouldn’t be honest if it was not an issue before, but somehow I had a hold on it,

Great job on 3 days.

@Matt any experience knowledge about Ritalin and sexdrive?

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My medication (methylphenidate / ritalin) hasn’t affected my sex drive specifically, but it has helped me be more present (with myself and the people around me, including my wife), and I think naturally, as you’re more aware and present with your wife, intimacy (both emotional and physical) grows out of that.

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I sure feel that if I’m around someone, I’m really there. However I’m seeing also all the rubbish of my past quit clearly now. Everything that has been treated, seems to be fully open again with a different perspective (e.g. as I wrote a little bit about in a different post). It feels like the recovery I wouldn’t have in me, only this time it’s not from booze. I like to use the phrase “everything needs to change”. I was working on that, but now I realize even more that it is true. At the moment it’s overwhelming. Like rehab I’m aware that I first have to go deeper, before rising up again. It’s going to be though and all this might sound negative, but on the other hand I’m quit calm. I’m gonna take my time, called in sick some weeks ago and the company doctor is well aware of the situation. Had a meeting with him last Friday, and only meet within 4/5 weeks again. Basically there is no timeline for what I have to go through he said. That gives some comfort but I can be really hard at myself right now.

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It’s understandable. This is a hard process.

You’re right though, it is worth the effort. Take care and don’t lose faith :innocent:

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