So tomorrow I’m going to brunch with some girl friends. A few things, ive bever been to brunch as like a decision of “hey lets go to brunch” it was more of a hung over, havent slept, need more alcohol and food hey this place is open with bottomless mimosas…
Now the girls im going with are all very sweet and supportive people. So i actually am not super worried about the alcohol trigger. But something i just realized… when me and my fiance were drinking… it was an abusive and toxic relationship. A lot of days it feels like that relationship was with an ex. Like were in a new relationship as new people. A year ago… i wouldnt have been ALLOWED to go to brunch or have friends or anything outside of our toxic hell. And the ocasions i did by the time i got home we were both drunk and angry and something awful would happen. I’m not anxious about this outting. Its a little weird. But theres not a lingering “ok he said i could go but i know he doesn’t want me too and i know were going to fight.” I’m just a normal person, doing a normal things, with normal friends, and no one is upset about it. I feel like I’m finally opening up to healthy habits and finding a sense of normalcy in life and it feels really good.
It’s amazing you both got sober! I can definitely relate to toxic relationships caused by addiction. My daughter’s father was very jealous when he drank and didn’t like me going out without him. Whenever I actually could, he’d show up anyways, drunk, and the night would end with the neighbors calling the cops. Eight years of that was more than enough. Now, eight years since we split, we’re both finally sober. I just wish we were smart enough back then to do it together. I’m happy you get to experience a genuine relationship together. That really is a blessing 
Love this girl! So grateful for the non toxic new sober lifestyle 
Do hope you have a good time at the brunch.
It was awesome! I got a lemonade in an alcohol glass so i didn’t feel left out and ate a ridiculous amount of french toast haha
Thank you! It was amazing.
@Klh1998 I’ve followed this post 
French toast and lemonade go together like fish and chips 
glad you had a great sober time 
Oh that is awesome to hear - so glad you had a great time!
A ridiculous amount of french toast? Is there a ridiculous amount 
— i love me some good french toast.
Yeah to having brunch and experiencing the positive aspects of sober living