So my one friend i work with for past 20 years lives and breathes for booze. Everyday after work he always wants me to drink. Won’t take no for a answer. He might stop for a day or 2 if I say im taking a break but then be right back at me. My problem is I never stop at one drink then im feeling like crap the next morning dont get anything done at home and I dont want that anymore. My addicted self finds it very difficult when im constantly asked and told its fine to drink everyday. I know I dont want to but cave and do it anyway. Im just sick of it. What’s my best way to get away from this?
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I know this may not be what you want to hear but best way to deal with this is to not hang out with this person. They clearly don’t respect your wishes. If you want sobriety and a chance to stack up days then you will need to move away from this friendship.
Maybe join groups or do activities after work that keep you from having time to hang out?
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Yeah, i do agree with this. I know its alot of how I deal with the situation. He’ll try plant seeds during the day of drinking As well. We work closely together. It’ll get to a point were He’ll go buy me booze during a break then guilt me after work if I won’t go drink it. Saying he spent all this money and I cant even have one . I know I dont have to but im addicted that added pressure really doesn’t make stopping it any easier.
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That little ear worm is a disease as it festers in your mind. I’m sorry your coworker/ friend is doing so disrespectful of your wants. Maybe it’s time to have that difficult and harsh conversation?
We will forever have people/ places and things come into our lives that will try to hinder our success. It’s our success to lose so we have to take charge of what we need to do to keep it from slipping away. If that makes sense. The power is within you and only you can make that change. We will be here to support you.
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Shane… I feel for you. My business ended up with a very bad culture of inappropriate drinking. In the end I had to stop taking part in any environment where there was alcohol involved for a substantial period of time. Even now I am very careful about which events I join.
If you want to change your outcome you have to commit to change WHATEVER is necessary… well, I had to.
Good luck with your journey and stick around and let us know how you’re getting along
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Thanks, yeah I know really need find a way to cope with the situation. Part of me is considering asking to be put into different position at work. Would keep me further from that.
So glad there’s a place like this app where a person can talk about this stuff. Definetly will be trying some different tactics this time I really don’t want back ito that cycle again.
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That’s 100% toxic. Time for firm boundaries. I know that ain’t easy. You might tell him once to quit it (although to me it seems you’re past that phase). There’s no place in our lives for people that treat us like that. That’s no real friend. Success.
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Hi Shane regards from Scotland if you want to stay sober buddy youl have to make a decision grow a pair tell him straight that you dont want to drink . you still doing meetings, wish you well
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