I recently found out that sometimes I age regress but don’t know that much about it, does anyone have advice or anything like that to help me?
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anyone? I just feel so alone
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Why would you think that you age regress? We all can be feeling our different selves at different ages, sometimes my emotions take me to a younger “self”. This is a sobriety forum, though. Is this leading you towards an addiction?
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ummmm its probably since I experienced an SA at a very young age, and sometimes I feel close to the age of before it happened if that makes sense? And it definitely contributes to my self harm addiction bc it feels like there’s something wrong with me and I don’t know how to deal with it
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I think you need to be kind to yourself. Allow yourself to feel the younger version of yourself without being self critical. Eventually you should talk to someone about your SA, a therapist or counselor, so you can heal from it. That is a very difficult thing to have to experience and you didn’t deserve it. I hope you have a good night/day depending on what part of the world you are in.
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Are you in therapy to help you process your experience w SA? Potentially self help books and lots of reading about it can help too. Survivor accounts, psychology, victim self help groups… I wouldn’t worry about the age regression. All trauma reactions are normal. Even your addiction is functional in that way. Try to stay clean off SH and start processing your trauma. There’s nothing wrong w you, you just been hurt. 
Best of luck!
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@Faugxh Yes I am in therapy, but it’s extremely hard for me to talk about the experience and how it affected me. I keep trying to figure out how to bring it up to her, but every single time I chicken out.
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Hi there.
I dont believe that you need to talk about all of the terrible parts of trauma in order to heal from it. That hasnt been my experience anyways. I have quite a bit of SA in my past and have been working a lot with a therapist. I also have a long history with self mutilation and of course self harming in all different types of ways. So, I can relate to you on many different levels, you are definitely not alone.
During a session this past summer I was able to save little 5 yr old me who had been stuck in a trauma for 45 years. Not once did that therapist ask me to re-live any part of those nights. It was all self lead. Little me just wanted out, she wanted to come home, she just wanted to be safe.
Healing takes courage, and faith. Yeah, if we have those two things we have a great shot.
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That menas a lot, thank you! It’s definetly something that I’m going to work on with my therapist, (probably for a while), but I’ve tried talking about it indirectly and it never seems to help that much. I’m not sure if it’s the therapist I had at the time, or simply not being ready, or if it was the indirect part that wasn’t helpful. I’ll just keep working on it with my therapist.
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The type of therapy that i am doing is called IFS and EMDR.
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Something else I want to make note of is that I had been doing a lot of work before I started trauma therapy. Like four years of shadow work , self reflection, and walking on a deep spiritual journey. None of what I experienced this past summer would have happened if I didnt feel safe in my body, and that took me 3 years of recovery to achieve. I connected with myself through yoga, meditation and breathwork, writing, taking care of my body’s needs, my mind’s needs.
I came into recovery after literally a lifetime, 45 yrs, of abuse that had been inflicted on my body, mind and spirit by myself and other’s. I needed to heal the relationship with myself first, i had to trust myself first on this material plane before I could ever delve into my subconscious.
Maybe thats why youre getting so much resistance. Maybe she, little you, doesnt trust you yet.
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Oh this is a real nice one.
Thanks
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Anytime twinnie, I got you.
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