I have hit rock bottom. I’ve been lying and hiding my excessive drinking from my wife but she always knows the truth. I have 2 small children that I don’t want to lose but I have been temporarily kicked out of the house to figure myself out and get on the right track. I’m a good man,husband, father, but due to my drinking I have failed everyone who is close to me. Just trying to seek out some help in any way possible and hoping to find a person to talk to who can help me thru my sobriety battle
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So glad you’re here!
You will find this community is wonderful and extremely supportive. There are people here from all walks of life with different kinds of addictions. There are other parents here too, me included (I too have two kids).
I’m only two weeks in, and before this I have relapsed millions of times over the years.
Now, take breather, and take solace in the fact that you have taken the first step towards healing. From this moment on, take one day at a time. One hour or one minute if need.
At this point, I firstly recommend you try to get your sleep sorted out, if you can. It can help greatly.
All the best wishes to you on your journey!
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Oh and when you have the time and energy, I deeply recommend you read other posts here also.
It has helped me to realize there are people who are almost in identical situations here, and see how they are coping with it!
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I have honestly had a lot of trouble sleeping. I keep waking up thinking I heard my son crying or my daughter yelling my name or my wife saying my name or my dog whining. I keep hearing these phantom cries and the past 2 days I sleep maybe 5 minutes at a time before waking up as I described above. Carrying a lot of shame and embarrassment right now and it feels very hard to move forward right now. But thank you for your words
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Welcome to the community Andrew.
This place has been a fundamental tool in my sobriety even though im at about 3 months sober. Though countless attempts.
Like you. I also have a wife and small children and was hiding the significant majority of my drinking from my wife. It would only be a matter of time before I was on my own if I continued down that path. I got the snarky comments. The side look. The resentfulness and somehow i always rationalized that i deserved it. I worked hard 72 hours weeks in the summer sun.. its normal.. all the guys do it.. all the bullshit. All the excuses… all trying to defend my alcoholism and not see it for the problem it is.
Enough was enough. Alcohol has been the root cause of too many family breakdowns and broken relationships generationally and in my surrounding family and society in general and I played the tape forward ( hence my profile picture choice) and decided I wasn’t going to loose everything like that.
Think of sobriety as giving up onething to gain EVERYTHING. or loosing EVERYTHING over one thing.
I wish you the absolute best mate. It’s heart breaking and hard position to be in. And this could very well be the start of the best of the rest of your life if you really put in the effort.
Use the search bar for topics of interests. Check out other threads. Engage. Read read and read. Go to an AA meeting. There is no one size fits all method and not everything works for everyone. But it’s worth trying everything is it not?
Keep active here. Try to put as much time into your sobriety as you did drinking. You can do this.
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Thank you so much! Feeling like I’m not alone in this is being quite helpful and I appreciate it
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This is the place where you can get support man. It filled with people like us. I’m ten days in, and that’s a huge step for me. I started here just like you and it made a huge difference. Stay involved, use the people here. If you are struggling, tell us. If you are succeeding, share so we can congratulate you.
A lot of us ended up here because we hit rock bottom. There’s no judgement, just support.
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This is obviously my first day here and day 1 of trying to be sober and the support I’ve already gotten from several different people is a lot of help. Very glad I found this platform and really hoping I can use it to help me get clean and win back my wife and kids.
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You can, 100%. It is not easy, but it is possible.
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Howdy Andy maybe try a meeting people there have been were you are now wish you well
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