Recovery and a toxic relationship do not mix. This is making getting and staying clean next to impossible for me! Confused right now. I’m not getting the support i expected or deserve.
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Whats going on Billy?
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Alot! Me and my partner are just non stop arguing and have been for the past 2 years i would say. Its getting worse now and i dont know what to do. 10 years in july and i dont know if i can do another 10. Im really torn with what my next step should be
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I cant really relate too much as ive been single the whole time ive been sober but all i can really say is that at moment considering your newly sober then that has to be your priority and focus right now, i can only imagine how hard it must be to try and manouvre a difficult relationship while being newly sober but youve got to keep that at the top of your list for yourself and all concerned
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Yea, thats my thoughts as well. My sobriety has to take the lead in my priorities. Its just extremely difficult to do that when my partner is begging for every moment of attention i can give her and i just dont have it yet. Im just now starting to think more clearly and regain my focus. Its not that its not important to me because it is but right now im trying to pour from an empty cup.
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I agree with Kristy but make sure she knows that your doing this for yourself but also to benefit both her and your daughter aswell
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Absolutely, right now i can literally only take things one day at a time. 8 days clean today. As the sobriety days continue im starting to realise that she is the constant drama in my life currently. So, im going to have to do something about it. What, i exactly dont know just yet. All i know is, i crave peace… thats all i want is just peace right now. I dont have the energy to fight and argue and i definitely dont need that in my life right now while im actively trying to recover
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For sure! Definitely have alot to think about today. Im about to head into my first group session so wish me luck. Thanks for reaching out!
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Good luck! Your doing great
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Thank you!!!
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Also remember this is all new to her as well. It may take weeks or months for you both to settle in to your new normal.
Do your best to focus on the things you can change to help your relationship. You have been together 10 years. Maybe a few months sober before you make any major decisions aboyt your relationship.
I know for me I was still very much on edge and mellowed out ater a couple months. My positive changes in behavior helped facilitate some positive changes from my partner as well.
For you its been 8 days and your never going back. For her it could be “Here we go again” I have seen 8 days before then hes is back to his old ways.
It took about 6 months for my wife to really feel like my sobriety might be forever.
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Great advice. Thank you for taking the time to respond to my post. This group really is a good plave to be. Tons of support and information!
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