Relapse great hangover

Feel like I wanna die. Never felt so down I really need help, drinking and coke till 5am, my wife is mad with me.

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Hugs. Be gentle with urself today. And then when u have strength make a plan.

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Oh my god I remember those days!!! The last one was last year sometime. I was out until 3:30am drinking and taking cocaine. Then my 1 year old daughter woke up at 6am. Mum of the fricking year. (She was being babysat by my mother in law who was also looking after her the next day - just before anyone calls social services) That day was SOOOOO painful. I promised myself NEVER AGAIN.
Sometimes we have to really feel the shit. The hangover. The shame. The guilt. Remember this feelings because this is why we get sober.
You can make it up to your wife. Can you cook a nice dinner tonight? Run her a bath? Do some DIY? You got this. You need to be proactive and drive the change yourself rather than wallowing in self pity.

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Thanks for the reply. I vê been sober for 2 months. I vê got two children and I feel so bad for being like this

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Keep trying hun, I know it must be so hard having little ones and working on it. It’s worth the fight!:smiling_face_with_three_hearts::bouquet:

The bad thoughts are awful, and the physical effects of chemicals leaving ur body only make it worse. U cannot change the past or control ur wife’s feelings, unfortunately, so don’t waste energy wishing u could do so. Spend the energy instead on making changes so it doesn’t happen again.

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Then you need to do it for them. I ADORE springing out of bed fresh as a daisy and running into my daughters room to see her reaching up for me for a cuddle and ready to start the day. I am such a better mother when I’m sober. Life is more fun.

Sorry to bother you, I’m feeling so bad don’t know what to do. Drinking cause so much bad things. Been caught driving drunk. For now all I want is to be sober and happy with my family. But my group of friends drink and do drugs and I’m weak in that field. Just wanna be clean

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Hey man be easy on yourself and remember this feeling, you made it two months and that’s fricken huge man. I was in the same boat as you, two girls who I couldn’t take care of, 3 dwis and haven’t had a license in 6 years, my ex left me 4 years ago bc I couldn’t get my shit together, I’d leave her home to take care of my daughter. Things are going to be ok, that shit is history. Pick yourself up and hop back on, today is a new day. I know exactly what you’re feeling tho, its hard not to beat are selfs up. I believe in you tho, try something new this time around and go for 3 months.

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Also may be a good time to be ok with not having friends, my group of friends was the same. And at the end of the day, are they really friends? Or just drinking buddies and coke buddies? If you don’t hit them up, do they check on you and see how you are doing? Do they pressure you into doing drugs? When sobering up, it’s the best time to learn who you are and start doing new things that means switching up your friends and in my case, having to be ok with not having any expect the ppl on this forum are the only friends I have

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It’s really depressing. Don’t know what to do more. I’ve got a great wife and two beautiful daughters, a good job, nice house. Why do do I relapse? Feel like really need professional help

Never had this kind of suicidal thoughts. Your replies are giving me strenght

It’s gonna be okay man. You earned an awful hangover, but it’s gonna be okay. Just use this time to gather your thoughts and read around the forum.

Here’s one Professionals opinion on our plight

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Need to. Chat, I’m completely down

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Chat away bud, we’re here…

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To stop drinking iv got to stay away from my friends. We all start drinking bees
And sometimes can’t control. besides after 2 beers I’m start thinking in coke. I’m afraid of being apart from my friends to get sober

You’re priority is not to your “friends” though; it’s your life we’re talking about here. Your wife and kids deserve a husband and father to be there, sober. Not effed up. You’re not a kid anymore, time to be the man you ARE. Take the friends out of the equation bud, they’re not your future.

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Gonna try again. Hope I can make it. Never want to feel like this again

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Write it down, exactly what you’re feeling. It’s gonna be a groundhog day for you each time hun.
You do have it in you but it’s not easy.
Take care of yourself today and if you can get out for a walk in nature.
Just today, you can do it.:smiling_face_with_three_hearts:

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You can do it! I was in your shoes 3 days ago. It’s a hopeless terrible feeling. Tomorrow is a new day! We are all here to support one another :hugs:

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